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Bridals photos in 2 days - fi got hair cut last night and it's too short!

Amanda, on July 27, 2019 at 5:32 PM Posted in Planning 0 11
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We have our bridal photos and first look photos/video to be taken on Monday (today is Saturday). FI got his hair cut last night (Friday) and it is WAY TOO SHORT. When he walked in the house last night, I was so upset and started crying. He said that his hairdresser wasn't going to be available for the wedding anymore, so he got it cut shortER to grow to the proper length FOR the wedding. He didn't understand why I was upset, and I told him that I wanted the bridal/first look photos to look consistent with the wedding day (Aug 24) photos, and now his hair is going to look MUCH shorter for one set of photos, that it's not going to be consistent. We have everything scheduled and ready to go for Monday, but a HUGE part of me wants to cancel and postpone the pics/video a few weeks for his hair to grow in. What do I do? We're spending thousands of dollars in photos and videography, and I HATE how his hair looks right now. :-(

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Latest activity by Colleen, on July 28, 2019 at 12:39 PM
  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    Honestly it is ok. I am sorry you don’t like it but he seems to. It’s kind of like if he did not like your hair cut. I honestly think you need to take a breath. I think you are a bit overworked up. No one will care if his hair is not the exact same length. Plus fall in a few months you may. Not be able to get a appointment as easily.
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    Expert August 2019
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    I think this is one of those details that you wont care about this time next year. Bride brain is a real thing and makes us super emotional over small things sometimes (super guilty over here). I dont think its going to matter, his hair wont be drastically different in 30 days, maybe a little longer, but I dont think it's worth stressing over.
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
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    What are bridal photos? This is the second post I've seen about them and I'm not sure what they are? Just a photography session weeks before your wedding?
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  • Meaghan
    Savvy October 2021
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    So, I know it “won’t be consistent”, but most people do not have consistent hair length or styles between the different sets of pictures. In fact, a lot of people view the first set as their “trial run” so that they feel more comfortable in front of the camera on their big day!

    Also, ask him how he thinks he looks. If he likes how he looks, trust his judgement. The shortness may be a shock to you right now, but if he likes it, he could choose to keep if for a while.

    My fiancé love to change up his look and it can be a bit of a shock at first, but it always grows on me and I love him just the same.
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    Savvy August 2019
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    The issue is that I KNOW I'm going to like the bridal/first look photos more than the wedding day photos. We're doing the bridals/first look at a castle, and the wedding is at a greenhouse. My dress is a princess ballgown, and we're having a horse-drawn carriage. The wedding day will still be nice (don't get me wrong!!!), bht I feel like I'll want to display more of the castle pics around the house than the greenhouse pics.
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    Savvy August 2019
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    But you're also right. His hair could just be a "shock" right now b/c it's new (and a lot shorter than what it usually is when he gets it cut). Unless we just still do it Monday, and then find someone else to trim down his hair again for the wedding (so that it looks similar to now, even though it looks way better longer). I'm asking everyone (photographer, castle venue, makeup artist, hair stylist) if we can post-pone until the week before or week of the wedding. I'm just finding it very hard to find a day that all four of them are available again. Plus, if we push it out that far, we may or may not get our bridal/first look photos and video to display at our wedding back in time. Smiley sad
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  • Meaghan
    Savvy October 2021
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    I see. You’re going unconventional and doing your first look and bridal portraits way ahead of the actual wedding day. It makes sense given the two different locations (BTW, love the castle!!!). If your idea was to make it look like it happened on the same day, talk to your photographer to see if they are free to push it back. I do feel like you might lose a bit of that “first look” magic if you push it beyond your wedding date.
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  • Meaghan
    Savvy October 2021
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    I was writing my reply when you posted your second response....if those photos and video were supposed to be a part of your wedding, then see if the photographer/videographer can be available when your hair/make up is. If not, you can move forward as planned and adjust his planned hairstyle for the wedding.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Couldn’t you just do your bridal portraits and do your first look on your actual wedding day?
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    Savvy August 2019
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    @Meaghan: I DO want it to look like it happened the same day, which is why I was going for consistency. This really blows... I know I shouldn't be all worked up about his hair (since I am marrying HIM and not his hair), but photos and videos (and memories) are the only thing were going to have forever, and I don't want this haircut to be documented forever haha. Grrrrr.

    @Caytlyn: I wish we could do it all the same day, but everyone is booked earlier in the day (our wedding is at 6-10:30pm), and they're at two separate locations (which is why we were doing it on different days).
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
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    You will have each other forever. I think it will. E hard to find a time when everyone is available in one specific week. It is getting to be wedding s as in. Plus no mater what expecting a picture to look like it was taken the same day when it was not may not happen. The weather can be different, I am saying that there are so many things out of our control.
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