Bridal Showers & the Groom's Family

I would say invite your mom, grandmas, MIL and SIL to both, otherwise someone might take offense. I went to two showers for my SIL, I just bought smaller items off the tegistry for each.

I don't think so. If they're already throwing you a separate shower, then I think they know they won't be invited to your family's shower.

This happens a lot... so, no, I don't think you'd be doing anything wrong if you didn't invite the FMIL, and FSIL to your family's shower.

ETA: I'm hoping I understood this correctly. If they are planning their own shower for you, why would they need to come to your family's shower, too?

I say no. If SIL wanted to help with one big one that would be different. Since she has offered to throw you a shower and invite FH's side, I say accept graciously and enjoy both. You could talk to FMIL about being invited to both, but if you'd prefer she not be there, then don't. Other than that, SIL can invite the rest to the one she's throwing. And I think your mom and bridesmaids should be invited to both. And I'd let BMs know that it's okay if they can't make it to SIL's

I agree with most of what FutureMrsK said except I would greatly encourage you to encourage your BM's to attend both. There is a possibility that if they do not attend the one with your IL's they will feel slighted.

I don't think you have to invite your in-laws to other shower. I would let your BMs know they are welcome to both but not to feel obligated to attend both.

I would let your FMIL and FSIL's know they are more than welcome to come to both showers but that it is not necessary. You know them best--would sending an invite make them think they have to come, or would they feel insulted if they didn't get an invite? But either way, talk to them and let them know it's open but not necessary.

As for your BM's, I think inviting them to both is fine, but I would also let them know that they're not obligated to attend both. I've been a BM in weddings with multiple wedding showers, and it can drain on them very easily--financially, time wise, and just energy-wise. If you're worried about your in-laws being insulted if no BM's go to their shower, ask your MOH to organize your BM's so that some go to one and others go to the other shower.

I am so offended, I am the grooms mother and was not invited to any wedding shower. I do not have the means to throw one being divorced and disabled but I am extremely hurt I was not invited to a single one. Am I wrong?

The wedding is now passed but I still am extremely hurt and upset. I am the grooms mother. He is my only child. I am divorced from his father and I was not invited to a single wedding shower; Also I do not drive and the wedding was over an hour away; I was told I must come alone not with a friend who has known my son since he was a child so I could have had a ride and would have been able to get my hair done prior. I had to sit at my ex mother in laws for over 4 hours to ride with my exhusbands sister. My accomadations were a trailer with no restroom. It was the high desert in winter and freeaing. Everyone else had a room with a restroom but my restroom was 30 feet outside and it was freezing. I had a mild stroke during the wedding and went completely blind and I was not going to call 911 and interupt my only childs wedding. If someone was with me they could have taken me to a hospital but with nobody there with me I just had to be completely blinded for 12 hours and terrified. Not even my son seemed to care. I am so hurt and I want to know if I am being too sensitive.