Bridal Showers... I've never been to one

At my bridal shower it was only girls & a few young boys under like 5.

My FH wanted to come, but I told him not to, he would feel out of place, and Ive never seen a man at a bridal shower. The guys went & got measured for tuxes that day. Id say pick the weekend he is out of town.

I have been to both - where it is just girls and where it is the future bride and groom together. Having the men there is not awkward IF THEY KNOW THE OTHER PEOPLE THERE. If they have no/little idea who your girlfriends are, it will get weird quick.

I would personally choose the weekend he is out of town and make it a slumber party with your friends. You could actually do your bachelorette party the same weekend if you want. I did this. My MOH and BM came into town, we had the shower in the afternoon then went out for the bachelorette party that night. My girls stayed over at my apartment, DH stayed over at his sister's.

It's a personal preference. I had my shower this past Saturday and FH stopped by for the last 15 minutes or so to see his Mom's friends that he's known since he was young and hadn't seen in a while and say thank you to everyone. But I'm having a second shower out of town the weekend FH is going on his bachelor party. If there are a lot of people who would want to see him or meet him, then do it the weekend he's home. Otherwise I'd do it while he's away because the slumber party sounds fun!

Mine is scheduled for FH workday (he works 24 hours) and then, to save money, after the old women go home we are going to have a bachelorette party that night...at least that's the plan as far as I know

At every shower I have attended the groom shows up at the end to say a quick hello / thank you and help load the gifts into the car.

If it is not a couples shower, then I say he doesn't have to be there. Your girlfriends might prefer if they you to themselves for the weekend of they are going to be staying with you.

Good question.

1) A bridal shower is for women and girls. This however doesn't mean that your groom can't stop by. I think it is totally appropriate (and to be frank - simply a nice touch) for the groom to arrive maybe when you are 10% away from finishing opening your gifts. Obviously that is hard to know timing of, so maybe plan like 20 minutes before the end?

2) Your guests will want to see your groom. It is a nice touch to the end of the event.

3) Also tell him to dress up a bit and bring you flowers (ha).

4) You probably will want some help carrying all of your gifts to your car, so he actually will come in handy too.

I had a couple's shower, so we had both guys and girls. I did NOT want to be in a room full of women, lol.