Bridal Shower

View Quoted Comment This is an etiquette and advice forum, so I will say it. It has always been considered ill mannered to plan a y party where you will be the guest of honor, and receive gifts. Your own birthday, or a wedding or bridal or baby shower. Bridal showers are all about gifts for the bride or for the couple's home, and bringing a gift to present, a second one in addition to the larger primary wedding gift, is a requirement when one attends a shower. Most people look badly on a bride who does it. A lot of invited guests usually do not come if they know the bride planned the shower for herself. . . . If you have a bridal party, and enough female friends and family for you to have a party, any one of them, or small group of them, can give a shower. . . . If you just want to socialize with the women you are close to, with no expectation of gifts, then it is fine for you to plan and pay for the whole party. But by definition, that is not a shower. And you should tell people it is a luncheon or tea, or a party for the women in your life . And they will not look at you as being greedy or gift grabby, and instead will see you as a generous caring person to throw a party for your women friends. . . . To say you are just a person who has to do things yourself, and thus plan a party to get yourself gifts ( a shower) is like saying you do not trust any of your friends and family to do something that will be good enough for you. And a basic rule of etiquette in all situations, is to never make your friends or family, potential shower guests, feel that way. Better to accept whatever gift, including planning a party for you, as a great and generous gesture from friends or family. You do not get to set conditions, plan things, and get presents that way, if you want people to respect you socially.

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View Quoted Comment I know it makes it a tad awkward, but I love the twist !!! I’m all about taking tradition and making it your own. Lol

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Where are you from?

Why don't you just have open seating. I've never enjoyed and I imagine others as well...assigned seats. Also, if they are in the wedding it wouldbe nice to include them because if not, it's kinda weird.