Bridal Shower

If they aren't apart of your bridal party then Nope you don't have to do that. I would definitely try and include them somehow since they wanted to share your day with them.


🤷 how the whole bridal shower rules go... I haven't made it that far in my planning.

Are you having assigned seating at your bridal shower? I’m a little confused by your question. At my showers, everyone sat wherever they wanted to, including our bridesmaids from both of our sides.

I mean if you don't mind them sitting with you. They are still apart of your wedding party and want to help you celebrate that day with you.

I think whatever feels right to you honestly. How close are you to them? I went to a shower where the bride had 2 sisters and the groom had 2 sisters. The bride’s sisters were her bridesmaids and the groom’s sisters were his groomswomen. At the shower, the groomswomen sat at the bride’s table but... they were also her future sisters-in-law.


If they’re just the groom’s friends that you aren’t close with then I don’t think they HAVE to sit at your table. But if you’d like them there it’s nice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think it would be sweet of you to include them with you and your friends' seating arrangements!

I’m a little confused by your question. Are you having assigned seating at your bridal shower?

View Quoted Comment No but there’s always a reserved table for immediate family in the front.

View Quoted Comment Head table with my maids. I’ve never seen it any other way.

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Oh, interesting. That must be a regional thing because I have never heard of doing that for a bridal shower. In that case, I would include them with your bridesmaids.

My daughter is having a Man of Honor rather than a Maid of Honor and I’ve been wondering the same thing about the whole day of the wedding and getting dressed... lol.

View Quoted Comment At over a hundred showers I have been to, I have never seen bridal parted all seated together, or closest family. Always mixed seating .

View Quoted Comment I have never been to one that wasn’t like that. Never.

View Quoted Comment And I work in events so I’ve worked many parties as well as going to them so my guess is that ,like another bride said, it must be regional or something.

View Quoted Comment His girls will be getting ready with is, hair makeup etc., and then going to wherever he is right after. Idk if they’ll change before they see him I guess that’s dependent on where he is and timing. That’s just how we’re doing things though.

Even though they are not “bridesmaids” they are still in the wedding party, and in that case I would treat them as your bridesmaids. I would have them sit with you!

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View Quoted Comment I was talking about showers attended. But I also worked catering, for years, never saw it. But there are many things that are localized. In this area, the hostesses plan the seating, or have open seating. And since more than half the time, the bridesmaids, maybe with assistance if mom or a sister, are the shower hostesses, they would consider it snobby to then take the seats near the bride for themselves. Also, showers are most commonly in homes, small restaurants or inns, common spaces. So the hostesses are busy being hostesses, greeting people, moving presents and food and stuff, or even conducting games, starting a guest book, etc. And away from any designated seat. Which would leave the bride with empty seats around her most of the time, while BM hostesses are up and busy . Just a different way of thinking about it. . . . Not mentioned before, but why is the bride worrying about the seating plan? As guest of honor, why are you getting involved in planning your shower?

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My first instinct says sit them with you. Hopefully, you guys get along, and it's an acknowledgement that they're important to your future spouse and to show others they're important to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes I’m planning everything. A lot of brides I know do it themselves, not all, but I’m the type of person that needs to do things herself. Personal thing I guess. Also, I don’t really have anyone that could handle planning a shower lol

View Quoted Comment Yes! We get along wonderfully. I’m just not sure what the best thing to do is. I think I’ll have them sit with me and my girls! Thanks to everyone for the input!!