Bridal Shower vs Wedding

It's considered very rude to invite guests to a gift giving event i.e. a shower, but not the wedding.

Maybe just do a bridal luncheon ?

I agree with PP that it is not kindly to invite people to wedding events if they are not invited to the wedding. Unfortunately that is the pill to be swallowed if you reduced your guest count instead of postponing.


If your girlfriends offer to do something for you to celebrate on the other hand, that would be alright but I don’t think you can be the one to organize anything otherwise.

I am eloping and wanted to celebrate with my friends and it is a know your crowd situation. My girls do not care and they understand our situation. I am having a bridal brunch and stating gifts are not necessary and I do not have a registry. Ladies are advised to just come and hang out. Honestly they are getting free food and a chance to hang out lol. My friends have known from jump I was not having a wedding and many of them said they just want to celebrate me. If you do not want to throw a celebration then just go out for an informal lunch or brunch.

I'm thinking you mean a bridal luncheon because you don't throw your own shower, so this would be an issue for the host to decide, not you.

If you do mean a luncheon, then I think you can get away with it because this is an unusual situation and most people would probably be understanding.

The bride doesn't throw her own shower. It can be hosted by anyone for any group. And because of that, you can have multiple showers. Some people (coworkers, fellow church members, etc) will commonly throw a shower when they know they aren't invited and that is ok. Just don't host your own party.

I don't see why not. .