Bridal shower vs. couples shower

We did a normal bridal shower and then towards the end, DH and my BIL and FIL and my dad came in to help clean up and gather the gifts. I was still opening, so he sat with me and helped for a few. It was nice but that's about the most time he could stand to be in a room full of the women in his family.

I don't see the harm in a couples shower, but for me personally, The traditional bridal shower was great!

I think a couple's shower is great, but want to echo Maltese - are you throwing your own shower? Cause that's a no-no.

We aren't doing several showers. My fh is actually really uncomfortable with the whole idea. But there will be several couples attending our shower that won't be able to attend the wedding. So that was another factor for our shower. I was apart of a wedding where the bride had 8 showers.. Ran out of gifts on her registry and had to go do another one. That was excessive I felt but it's what they wanted I guess.

EIGHT shower?!? Holy shit that's a lot! Just sounds gift grabby.

FH asked if my shower was going to be co-ed or just for girls. He wasn't comfortable having the guys attend a tea party. He was relieved when I told him just girls.

FH wanted no part in a shower as he didn't want the attention and he's not big on gifts in general. I wasn't keen on the idea , either, but my mother and aunt insisted. I agreed to a shower as long as it was laid back and intimate. My mother and aunt invited some of their friends (some of whom are not invited to the wedding) and it has doubled in size. I'm not super excited about it, but at least there are no games!

Several friends have gotten married within the last year and there have been a few couples' showers. They were nice. One of my favorites actually was a backyard barbecue that went well after midnight. I think either option (bride only or couples) will work -just depends on what you are looking for.

We are doing a Couples Shower - more like a party, really!

I think my mom is planning on throwing me a bridal shower back home with my family and old friends though

When my MOH and BM's asked me if I had any special requests for a bridal shower I told them I preferred a couples shower and they LOVED the idea. I wanted the shower to be about US and not just me. They did it like a cookout and everybody brought a dish. The groomsmen provided the meat. Guests included the groomsmen and their SO's, the bridesmaids and their SO's, both sets of parents, a few friends and co-workers, the flower girl and her parents, and the ring bearer and his parents. There were about 30-40 people. There was lots of food, beer, desserts, appetizers, etc. We didn't play games but we had blank blocks for people to write advice on them and we had the fingerprint/balloon guestbook. The house was decorated with balloons and signs, streamers, etc. and there were a couple of decorated cakes from a bakery. FH and I opened gifts together and everyone had a GREAT time. No one was bored and everyone said how much they enjoyed it. We did not have any other shower. This one was plenty.

How many guest did you have ?