I'm curious as to what everyone usually does in regards to showers. In my circle, there are usually two separate showers, one for each side. My aunts have offered to throw me a shower with the intent of it being for my side. When FMIL found out, she was rather scandalized by the idea and claimed that showers are "for the families to get to know each other". My family is small, whereas his is huge, and I think his mom is expecting to co-host and plan a large shower for everyone (large as in she wants to invite every female on our 200 count guest list). I'm trying to stay out of it since I'm not involved in planning, but FMIL keeps bugging if I'm having a large one "like you're supposed to" or if my aunts are only planning on inviting my side. I keep telling her that it is not up to me.
Two Questions: Any suggestions on how to handle this? And what is the norm in your circle, separate or together?
