Bridal shower registry

NO NO NO NO HONEYFUNDS OR CASH REGISTRYS WHAT IS GOING ON TONIGHT I CAN'T

Honeyfunds just give you cash, yes with a percentage taken out. They don't actually buy you experiences. Why do people keep bring these up?!?

@Crescent, since OP said bridal shower, I'm just imagining how mortified my conservative Catholic FMIL would be receiving an invitation that said, "Bride is registered at VS; bra size, 32DDD and size medium-panties."

She would call FH so fast for an explanation! And would his face be so red!

@FutureMrsBest, a honeyfund is beyond rude. @OP, do not start a honeyfund. If you have a honeyfund and no registry, I know that you did not want my gift and only wanted my money. I would be so offended by that that I wouldn't attend the wedding and there would be no gift. You'd get a card, but it would be a card with my best wishes. I'm absolutely flabbergasted by the idea of just wanting money honestly. People gave us money (a few) and/or visa gift cards, and I was like uh, we have a registry. We need the stuff on it!

Maybe they mean lingerie shower? But asking for cash is rude af

@Jay, it's so weird. I had an aunt say she wanted to buy me some "pretty nighties" right after we got engaged. She got some for my cousin when she remarried. I politely declined. I'm all for pjs (the flannel pants and matching thermal shirt variety) as a gift from an older female relative. As a matter of fact, cute, nonsexy pjs are one of my favorite gifts from the older female relative set. I draw the line at anything other than flannel. Anything that is lacy, silky, or even remotely PG rated is inappropriate as a gift except at a lingerie shower and/or bachelorette party.

Typically for a bridal shower one would register at places like target, Macy's, etc for things such as linens, kitchen appliances/tools, etc. I definitely wouldn't register at Victoria's Secret. The idea is that your guests get you and your spouse items to decorate/fill your home together.

Also, there is no kind way to ask for cash. If you don't want to register that's fine, neither am I, but don't ask for cash.

1. Don't ask for cash. First, it's rude. I have a friend who did this and the shower wasn't as fun because there wasn't a shower of gift.

2. Why don't you just have a lingerie themed shower? No registry, just let guests surprise you. Invite only those you'd be comfortable with.

3. Also, please don't host your own shower.

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I almost left the duplicate post. Because seriously, NO.

@flighty I thought you did it on purpose.

Hi guys thanks for the advise, just to make it clear I wasn't going to ask for cash for the bridal shower.

My fiancé and I were just going to put it nicely for re wedding. There are tons of nice ways I've found to ask for cash instead of gifts, lots of sweet thoughtful ways actually.

It was just the whole bridal shower I was worried about if I need to be registered so people had an idea of what we like.

Hi guys thanks so much,

I didn't mean that I want to ask for cash for the Bridal Shower, just the wedding.

My fiancé and I have found tons of sweet and thoughtful ways asking for cash instead of gifts.

I just didn't know if I needed to be registered somewhere for the Bridal Shower.

You don't ask for cash as a gift for your wedding either. Some "sweet" poem doesn't make it not tacky.

The whole purpose of a shower is showering the bride with registry gifts. If you don't have a registry, don't have a shower.

There is no sweet, thoughtful way to tell people you only want money. Most people give cash at weddings anyway (atleast the ones I've been to), so don't specifically ask for it.

So much nope.

Just make a small registry for your shower. People know how to give cash and don't need you to tell them or remind them how to do it. If someone doesn't want to give you cash, they aren't going to give you cash no matter what you put in your invitation. It could honestly back fire because I can imagine people purposely giving you a boxed gift or nothing at all because you had the audacity to just point blank ask for money.

I had 139 guests at my wedding and I only got ONE boxed gift and we had a decently sized registry. This is not something you need to worry about.

God, just kill me now.

Do you REALLY want your mother in law buying you lingerie?

I didn't think so.

Don't ask for cash either. Make a little registry of new towels, board games, power tools, whatever. If you don't want a shower, don't have one. Most people will bring cards to the wedding.

I registered my bridal shower at target. I added things like cookbooks, lingerie, candles, robes, bath bombs, massage oil, cookbooks, etc. I feel like getting a bunch of lingerie in front of my family would be weird. I registered at Zolas where we can get cash gifts and regular items. You should check that out.

@soraya Cookbooks. Great idea

Zolas for cash; not a great idea.

People know how to give cash. It's even easier than buying a gift......