Bridal shower registry and a wedding registry?

They are the same thing.

To be very honest with you, there’s no point. A lot of people end up attending without getting gifts or prefer to give money. So you will most likely not get all of your gifts anyway so there’s no reason to have two different registeries. To give you an idea - we had 75 guests, 60 gifts on our registry and ended up only receiving 10 or them - everyone else either gave us cash or didn’t bring anything.

View Quoted Comment This might be a know your crowd thing. We are getting married in a week and have received everything on our registries. I think we had around 150 things we registered for.

I think the reason why she suggested a separate registry for bridal shower because of the nature of the gifts (i.e. lingerie & sexy kinky gifts). Do these type of stores even have registries? How will your guests know what sizes to purchase? It seems awkward to have lingerie and kitchenware on your wedding registry.

One registry for both occasions, though you may do 2-3 stores. A lot of people shop in stores, so if guests are from different areas, make sure at least one store is in their area. Even buying on line, many people want to look at the actual item, before deciding to buy. Depending on whether you have one shower, or have 2 or 3 people throw smaller ones ( you do not know til they offer) all showers may be any gift, or some may have themes, where one is mostly kitchen wares, mostly lingerie, mostly bride's hobbies. Many people look at registries only as suggestions for colors you like, or types of things. So whatever stores you choose, make sure there are some choices in the shower price range, $25-100, and some that go more, $50-300. But all price ranges in a single registry. No such thing as a shower registry and a separate wedding one.

Thank you!!

I did just one and received 5 things from
the registry for my shower. The rest were either gifts they chose or cash. I specifically told my VIPs I did NOT want any naughty gifts and I ended up with two sets of lingerie which are gorgeous but were super embarassing to open lol.

View Quoted Comment Agree. For shower or wedding, got over 200 non- registry gifts, only one dud, and all 10 items we registered for, either from the store where we registered, or same stuff bought at another store. And 4 cards of money, all older family who live in different countries and did not attend. My youngest sister, having gone to Ivy League college and grad school and made friends in NYC area, meeting a Long Islander and marrying there, got all one hundred ten things she registered for, multiples of some where she wanted them, at least 40 off registry, all things they liked, and over a hundred cards of money. We are different people, both rural roots. I married a Brooklyn son of immigrants with their own small businesses. Who came to Brooklyn from rural background, and half the huge family left the big city for rural when they married. From the this sister first visited NYC first at 16, she became an upscale city girl. Never liked all the country pastimes, mountain hiking, sports, skiing etc. So gravitated to new friends on career and money track. She and her husband, me and mine, are 5 years apart exactly, one Masters one PhD each ( the country girls have the PhD's, go figure.) Every time I read about registries, or buying off registry, or people saying showers are for presents, bit some get almost all money for weddings I think, that is true for these people. But it varies hugely by area, by ethnic background , by occupation and income and lifestyle. Truly, a know your crowd thing. People from the same background make widely different choices as they near adulthood. This sister and I are the extremes of 9 children . But when you read advice about things like registries and gift giving patterns re: Physical gifts, money in cards, services as gifts, realize totally different advice may be good, for different groups. So screen advice some for, people like us. And, people like the families we came from. Note: The statistics come from sis the business major, who asked me about kinds of gifts by number, to which I said mostly presents, how the heck would I know how many of what? Look at our thank you card list. Every guest, shower, wedding, other gift and date we sent notes. And she counted and compared. Different people.

So true. Thanks for sharing

One registry.