Bridal Shower Rant - Are you experiencing this issue???

Mind you that this one aunt is not involved in our lives at all and I've only met her once in the 3 years we've been together. Plus, when her kids throw bashes we never seem to make it to the "list..."

You don't have to invite everyone, it's your shower. I agree with you.

It is your day, a shower is to celebrate YOU! I think if you don't want them there, then don't feel obligated! I am frustrated because we are inviting people to the wedding that I have NEVER met. I have been with my FH for over 6 YEARS! If you weren't important enough for them to involve you in their lives, then don't feel obligated to include them in yours. good luck

Let them know you didn't invite them because you just wanted it to be close friends and family.

I've come across the same problem. Invite who you want there, its your shower.

This is just a bunch of added stress that I DO NOT need right now. I just do not get how FH's father assumes that this will not make things even more stressful. Some things are better left unsaid...

Ouch. Were your aunt and sister who are throwing you the shower not clear that you wanted to limit the guest list? They (nor your FFIL) really should not have discussed with anyone not on your list without talking to you first, but that is the danger of hosting event where the invitees and the non-invitees talk to each other. Can your aunt and/or sister claim limited capacity?

I'm confused. I thought the people throwing the shower would be responsible for the guest list?

My MOH and bridal party threw my bridal shower last week and it was only people that I provided on the list since she is my MOH-sister I know she added a few guest to the list. Your day, your way!!!

My aunts and sister (who are hosting the shower) only went off the list I provided to them. They are not adding anyone else to it. I like that - "Your day, your way!!!" That, it is!

Honestly, I hate showers, and if I am not invited to one I run the streets naked, whooping for joy.

LMAO @Shannon!

I think this is a personal issue but I plan to invite every women invited to the wedding to the shower, actually more like everyone on the list because we're having a "couple's shower" and everyone on the list are close friends and family. I want to celebrate with them all but that's just me.

I was the MOH at my friend's wedding back in Feb, I was provided with their entire guests list to be invited to the shower, no one was left behind. That's how I've always seen it, however the bachelorette is who ever the bride wants there and it's usually just the bridal party and a few close friends and family.

At the end of the day, it's whatever you want but I really don't see the big deal of inviting them since they're invited to the wedding anyway. Good luck

You do not need to invite every woman invited to the wedding.

I have to agree with Shannon, I too, hate bridal and baby showers. The biggest reason I hate them? All of those stupid games! We only did one at my daughters shower....it was a sheet with 5 questions about the bride and 5 about the groom. The person who answered the most questions correctly won a $20 gift card.

I will say that the only thing worse than a shower, or a shower game, is a big shower with lots of people. I went to one years ago with about 40 people, and it took over an hour to open gifts. There are really only so many times you can ooh and aah over hand towels before you want commit suicide by drowning yourself in chicken salad.

There will be NO games at my shower. I've already made that crystal clear

I invited every woman on the wedding guest list because i have some women in my family that believe that if they werent invited to the shower why should they come to the wedding.

I am only inviting a max of 20 ppl. It will be the women that are closest to me in my family and my bridesmaids - no extra friends or anything like that. If I'm going to be opening lingerie and such - I don't need people there I don't know or young kids witnessing it. They've just gotta understand that you need to be comfortable. At my baby shower, there were a ton of people I didn't know and it is really awkward receiving a gift and not even know who to look at when you say thank you. Real awkward. Not doing that again lol

My host invited all the woman invited to the wedding to the shower. Our wedding is not huge... and we had a lot of out of state guests so clearly they didn't make it to the shower. It ended up being about 28 woman and that was def enough. Nothing is more boring than watching ME open gifts for 3 hours... I would say invite whoever you want... and like the others said, just let them know you were keeping it only close friends and close family.

I'm not having a shower for much the same reasons Shannon hates them. I hate baby showers too. *shudder*