Bridal shower problems...vent

Oh I'm so sorry that sucks...

I wish I had a group of girls that were friends for me too.

I guess your girls are not friends w/ your MOH? To discuss things like that.

Aw thats sweet! Its hard to balance so much on your plate and you MOH seems like a wonderful person, no wonder you chose her! YOU just make sure you give her praise and thank her! Unfortunately you can't make anyone help, i agree, I think its really rude that they are blatenly ignoring her and I would say something about that. I would tell how much she does and for her to make time to email them all, they can FIND time to write her back or HELP her!

Jaclyn I think that's the main problem my other girls besides SIL are friends and we have been for years and years. MOH I met through work but they have met before. I don't know I guess I just thought my girls would have more respect for her. It really has nothing to do with throwing me a shower just the fact that they are being rude cause that is not the type of girls they are!

That is mean of your BM's to blow off your MOH. I'm glad things are gong to work out though. Wedding planning is kinda crazy. At first everyone is excited for you then that dies down. It's a roller coaster experience.

I had similar problems as MOH, althought not AS bad since one of the bridesmaids was an old roommate. Anyhow, I spent months trying to coordinate a surprise bridal shower and got zero response until long after we were supposed to have it. Sporadically, there might have been mentions of dresses they found, but no one directly answered me. When we all finally met at the hotel the wedding weekend, I was suddenly hugged and apologized to! It turned out the others felt intimidated by me, and the bride's faith in me as her "guardian" was mistranslated as "my MOH is a vicious little b@$!#" Once they realized I'm way laid-back and nice, we were able to pull together an awesome bachelorette party that included a mani-pedi for the bride. Not only that, but my car trouble sucked up all my money but the bridesmaids totally covered me for the weekend! I know you mentioned your ladies have met, but did they get to know each other? Have you been in a relaxed situation, like pizza-relaxed?

That sucks. They could definitely help even if they can't chip in.

Plus, (sorry for being long-winded lol) there could be a considerable amount of jealousy on your BMs part for not being MOH. I had to deal with that too, and I was chosen for the exact same reason you chose yours! If things get mean, it might be beneficial to explain why you chose her. And why you chose them to be your bridesmaids, who, traditionally, are the women you trust your life with. If they STILL have issues, I'm sure you have plenty of other ladies who would love to make your day amazing!

That sucks! but at least you have one person doing this stuff for you and a supportive mom and MIL. Hopefully they pull it together for a kick ass batchlorette.

I had a similar situation with a bachelorette party I planned last year. Only 2 of 7 bridesmaids were able to come (due to living out of state, which is totally reasonable), but we have a large group of girlfriends that weren't bridesmaids, but are still close to the bride that were coming. I sent a fb invite to everyone and asked if they could contribute $10 or whatever they could afford to help purchase the bride some really awesome favors and decorations. Only one girl helped, and one was even insulted that I asked. Apparently she only thinks the MOH should have to pay for such things, BUT even if that was the case, I wasn't the MOH. The MOH was her very pregnant sister who lives in Seattle (we are in Nebraska). It is frustrating to have to deal with people, as many either forget or just decide it isn't their responsibility. As the bride just let her know how much you appreciate what she is doing and have lots of fun that day. It will make it worthwhile no matter what.