Bridal Shower - Lack of Responses - what to do???

I would say to just see if they show, but since you need a final headcount I would have her call them. Just be sure to wait until after the deadline. Good luck.

Jillian, I would honestly just let your sisters and aunts take care of it. You shouldn't have to worry and check up on who did and didn't respond. People are like that. It will be a day for and about you, just enjoy and don't stress. My FSIL did an amazing job with my shower. She later told me that out of the 38 invites she sent, 12 people never even responded and 3 who did, never showed. Oh well, I had an awesome time and was so incredibly appreciative and honored at all of the family and friends that came out. Best wishes to you.

We seem to be having the same issue with my bridal shower (and it appears the wedding as well!). We also need a final headcount because the shower is being held at a restaurant (they are opening it just for us!). I find it very rude that people cant pick up a phone and call/text someone to say yes, no or even a maybe! HOWEVER this still doesnt change the fact that we cant control what others do! SO i am just making little reminders on facebook (most of my friends are on it), or sending out text messages. I know I shouldnt be worrying about this- but i hate to see my maid of honor having to deal with the fact that my friends dont know how to RSVP! SO im making it known that I would like them to. Thats all we can really do- and just give the manager the headcount we have, and hope he can handle more. Also letting the manager know your concern for the lack of rsvp'ing may help as well.

People never rsvp anymore, I just don't get it!

Call them, text them, leave messages. that's what I had to do when I was planning my friend's shower, I used evite to set up the invite, I can see a lot of them read the invitation (because evite indicates who did and who didn't) and they still didn't rsvp, some of them read it multiple times, I just didn't get it

Yeah, sometimes I think it's easier to just do everything electronically, but my aunt put SO much effort into making my invitations. I talked to my sister and she's going to send a mass e-mail by BCC to everyone who hasn't responded after the deadline. If there is still no response, then that's just rude. Now, if they show up - that'll peeve me off.

I hosted a bridal shower and I found that if you include everyone's name in an email who hasn't responded they feel guilty and are more likely to finally respond because they're on the list for everyone to see It worked a little bit, but I eventually had to hunt each and every one down until they gave me a "yes" or a "no". For some unknown reason people just don't realize how important an RSVP is these days...

Had my wedding shower in June my whole family didn't RSVP or even acknowledge it none went So screw etiquette I'm not chasing people. If you are important to them they would respond to the RSVP. So this sets them up to be cut off if the wedding invites are also ignored. I want people who care attending my wedding not people I harassed and forced to go. Obviously your choice but I know I'm cutting ties with many after September 14. Dont even get me started on the bachelor bachelorette parties people just want it about them.