Hello!
Originally, a couple bridesmaids and I were talking about the bridal shower. We agreed to help out with it. I asked for a budget, but wasn't given one.
For some more bg: There are 6 bridesmaids, 1 maid of honor, 1 matron of honor (total 8 bridesmaids). There's "hostess BM" who is running the show. Both MOHs can't make it, but the maid of honor is pitching in. Hostess has only asked maid of honor, myself, and another BM to pitch in.
Invites went out, and the primary BM spearheading the party put "hosted by BM". She's going a little nuts with the amount of money (in my opinion), and I'm really not in a position to drop $150-200 as part of my "chip in" when the guest list is only 35ish people. Also, I'm a little annoyed that she wrote "hosted by BM" when several of us discussed putting it together... After I saw the invite, I'll be honest - I backed off on assisting.
I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong with the etiquette. Is it typical for the "Hosted by" to say only 1 name, but the expectation is to have all bridesmaids pitch in? If the BMs are expected to pitch in, should all of them pitch in?
I'm also a little disenchanted with the situation because the bachelorette was a weekend that was entirely hosted by the hostess BM, myself and the maid of honor (food, uber, airbnb, gift bags). I am not made up of money! Jesus.
Sorry for the frustration! I do want the bride to have a good time, so part of me feels like I should just suck it up. Please let me know if I'm out of line! Thank you.