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Bridal Shower : Home Or Venue ?

FutureMrsC, on July 6, 2018 at 12:07 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 13

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Hello, ladies! I am in the process of creating my guest list for my bridal shower and I have been asked by my bridesmaids if I’d prefer to have it at a home it at a venue like a restaurant. I have a bridesmaid who wants to ask her husband if it would be ok to have the festivities at her home, and another bridesmaids who suggested having it at a restaurant where people would be responsible for their own food and drink, and there being little clean up by us.

I want things to be cost effective for the ladies, but I wasn’t sure how it would come off to my guests if they arrived and realized they had to pay for their own food. It was suggested to me that the bridesmaids could pay for enough appetizers and if anyone wants to order meals, they can. I don’t know. I could be wrong.

What did you all go with for your bridal shower? Thanks in advance !

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Latest activity by FutureMrsC, on July 6, 2018 at 1:36 PM

Champion June 2018
muriel · on July 6, 2018 at 12:12 PM
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You don' host a shower and then make the guests pay. If the BM's are hosting a shower in your honor, they need to host what they can afford. If that means a shower in someone's home with light refreshments, so be it.
Showers were never intended to be large events in a catered venue. They are a gathering of your nearest and dearest friends and family, not all the women invited to the wedding.
I would tell the BM's that I would not be comfortable with a shower where the guests have to pay, and encourage them to keep it smaller and in someone's home.
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Master June 2016
Sarah · on July 6, 2018 at 12:13 PM
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If they can’t afford to pay for everyone’s meals there’s two options:
1. Host at a restaurant between meals
2. Host at someone’s house

It’s never ok to ask guests to pay their way at an event.
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MrsD · on July 6, 2018 at 12:13 PM
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I would prefer home, it's more affordable and you usually have more space and more options for bringing and cooking food, and bringing whatever alcohol. And you wouldn't have to ask guests to pay for their own meal. Depending on the time of day, if I was invited to a bridal shower around lunch time I'd expect a meal for lunch and not have to pay for it.
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Officiallymrs · on July 6, 2018 at 12:13 PM
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A shower should be hosted. You don’t invite people to it and expect them to pay for their plates .. if I were a guest and I encounted
this I would be really taken a back and not happy
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Devoted January 2019
WeddingCruiser2019 · on July 6, 2018 at 12:16 PM
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I always prefer showers in someone's home just because I feel like they are more intimate, comfy etc. But I agree with PPs, If I was invited to a shower and was told I had to pay for my own meal, I would not be a happy camper.
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Dedicated October 2018
FutureMrsC · on July 6, 2018 at 12:19 PM
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Thanks ladies. I was like, that’s real offputting to tell people to pay for their own meal.
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Master October 2018
DC Wife 10.27.18 · on July 6, 2018 at 12:20 PM
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I wouldn't go to a bridal shower where I had to pay for my own food. I think the best thing to do is have it at the home of the person who wants to host properly. I don't know much about mine or if I'm even having one but, I'd prefer to have it in a home and not in a restaurant.
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Master September 2018
Jennifer · on July 6, 2018 at 12:25 PM
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I prefer to have it at someone's home if offered.
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VIP October 2018
queenbee · on July 6, 2018 at 12:35 PM
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Guests at a shower should never have to pay for their own food and drinks, in my opinion. That’s rude. There should be enough food provided for everyone you invite. If your bridal party doesn’t have the money to host a lot of people, keep it small so they can pay. If someone has a home that is large enough and they’re willing to host there, I would do that.
My mom and sister wanted to host my bridal shower at my parents house, but decided to rent a room instead so there is enough room for everyone, parking, bathrooms, and no one is running in and out of their house all day. They’ll be cooking some of the food, and ordering the rest from a catering company nearby. Find out what works best for your BP or whoever is hosting and go from there!
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Dedicated October 2018
FutureMrsC · on July 6, 2018 at 12:45 PM
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Great suggestions ladies. My guest is a decent size and I love the intimate and more comfortable feel of having it hosted at a home. So when my bridesmaids suggested it, I was like “ Huh? Why would I want people to pay?”
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Devoted June 2018
JuneBride2018 · on July 6, 2018 at 12:52 PM
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My girls rented a small building and hired an inexpensive decorator. It was intimate and perfect. It was held on a Sunday because buildings are normally cheaper on Sundays. They had enough time to plan and pay. My MOH sent out messages to them letting them know when everything was due. I had about maybe 55-60 guests. Food was catered by a friend of my MOH at a great deal. I don’t think it would be a great idea to ask someone to pay for their own meal at your bridal shower. I’ve gone to a bridal shower that was held on the outside of their home. It turned out nice and I’m sure inexpensive. Whatever you or your girls can afford, do that and enjoy. You will have fun no matter what.
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firstoneat56 · on July 6, 2018 at 1:05 PM
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Exactly this. Let them figure it out as long as none of the guests are paying for anything. If they do have it at someone's home, guests should also not be asked to bring a dish either.
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Dedicated October 2018
FutureMrsC · on July 6, 2018 at 1:36 PM
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Thanks ladies !
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