I was invited to attend both the bachelorette and bridal shower for a close friend. We covered our own costs for the bachelorette which was totally fine, but now for the bridatshower, the bridesmaids who are all hosting it at a local high tea shop have basically told us that we are chipping in for a gift for the bride as a group and that we will need to pay foe the cost of the high tea to attend as well.
Does this sound crazy to you? I've googled a bunch and it doesn't seem common for guests to have to pay to attend a bridal shower. I had already gotten a gift when they told us about their plan (1.5 wks before the event) and they seemed annoyed and surprised that I had gotten a gift already. We were only informed about the shower date and location 2.5 weeks prior.
Just looking for your thoughts on my situation and what you would do about it... Thanks!