Bridal shower for courthouse wedding?

That is really gift grabby. I probably would not attend a shower for a wedding I was not invited too. I would bring a card to the celebration of your wedding the following weekend with a nice gift card and super side-eye a gift registry.

Awesome, I enjoy weddings where fiends attend.

That being said, I honestly don't know. I wouldn't have a problem with it as a guest, but I know a lot of people here want to be present for ceremonies.

I wouldn't and if I was invited to that - I wouldn't bring a gift. but that is just me...

I am always shocked when brides on WW call other brides gift grabby. You need to think about what you yourself would do. If I am invited to a wedding or a wedding reception I send a gift even if I cannot attend. Invited to a bridal shower you bring a gift even if there is no registry. Maybe you don't make a registry but you still have a right to make the registry. The bridal shower is for the women in your life to celebrate you and prepare you for your marriage not just the wedding ceremony. If you want to have a shower ask a family member or friend to throw one for you. it is definitely your right to have one.

Your friends and family will not think of a courthouse wedding any different than they would think of a church wedding. It's still you committing your life to your partner for the rest of your life and they want to celebrate you with gifts. The Point to the registry is to help them know what you will like rather than giving you something you don't like. Do not feel bad that you're having a courthouse ceremony. One of my best friends had a courthouse ceremony I still celebrated her

Since bridal showers are usually for those closest to you, I would only have a small shower for those invited to the actual ceremony.

If I was invited to a reception only, I would still bring a gift. But I would not go to a shower if I was not invited to the ceremony.

We just went to our cousins reception (they went to Vegas with their daughters for the actual ceremony) Even though no one was invited to the ceremony there were still several gifts given to them at their reception. She did not however have a bridal shower, I don't see a problem with her having one if she wanted it, but this is both of their second marriage and it was some what of a last minute deal so they decided no to have a shower.

I honestly don't see the difference between having a shower for a traditional wedding vs. a courthouse wedding. It's still people close to the bride/couple celebrating the marriage.

Thanks everyone!

Meh, I say do it. If I were a friend of someone who had a courthouse wedding, I'd definitely attend whatever sort of shower they were having and bring a gift.

It is rude to invite people to a shower who aren't invited to the actual wedding. So you should only invite those who are invited to your ceremony to the shower.

As for gifts, anyone can give you a wedding gift if they want. It's up to them. You never ask for gifts, so it's not something you have to worry about. You can always set up a registry and if someone asked where you're registered, tell them. There is nothing wrong with that.

I've recently been thinking about this! FH and I decided to marry on a cruise with immediate family and close friends and have a reception when we get back. We'll still have a tree ceremony with our families at the reception though. After reading some of the responses, I decided I want a bridal shower. I'm having a wedding. I'm still getting married. Just because you don't want to put on a show (ceremony) for every single person invited doesn't mean you should miss out on special moments, like a bridal shower.

And yes, I will be registering. Even if no one gets anything from it, I'll still have a list of everything I want/need for our new house.

Our friends had a courthouse wedding with just immediate family and they've been married 2 years. I still feel guilty that they never had a shower or reception so we were never able to truly give them a gift. I keep bothering them to throw a party to celebrate so we can give them something.

I've been invited to a bridal shower before and not the actual wedding. I bought a gift for the bridal shower and then I bought a gift to bring to the reception (just a gift card). I think it depends on if it's a close friend etc. My girlfriend who invited me to her shower invited me with a few of our other co-workers who weren't invited to the wedding, but she also had a very small and intimate ceremony. I say do whatever you feel is right. These are your close friends and family who know you the best and understand your intentions. As far as being "gift grabby" if they are your true friends and family, they will have no problem deciding to get you a gift for the shower and/or the reception, it's whatever they want to give to you and your FH to help start your life together.

You should never ask someone to host a bridal shower for you. It is not an expectation or an obligation and should be up to the people closest to you to decide whether or not you have a bridal shower.

I think a bridal shower is ok for a courthouse wedding. If someone you invite is offended then they just won't show up.

I had a bridal shower with friends and family and I had an immediate-family-only wedding. Everyone of course will be invited to the reception.

I don't see it as gift-grabby at all. Just cause you're keeping your wedding simple doesn't mean people won't want to celebrate with you. Why should the woman who blows $150 per guest on food alone *also* get a bunch of china, and the woman who saves her pennies have to buy her own?

I don't see this as gift grabby, assuming that the people you are inviting to the shower are also invited to the reception.

I never really understood why people got offended if they were invited to the reception but not the ceremony. The reception is the fun part that costs all the money anyways.