Bridal shower etiquette

I think that's a great suggestion Ali. I agree that if she doesn't want gifts than the appropriate thing to do would be to have a no gift luncheon but it doesn't sound like that would fly with this bride, suggesting that might upset her. I would advise her that if she doesn't register she will end up getting a bunch of random gifts she doesn't want or need.

And seriously Victoria? NO.

I hate those gross cheesy tacky-ass poems so very, very much.

The party committee at work hosted one for a girl because she had the same requests for us to pay for her honeymoon! It was so tacky. Ugh. Don't do it. Please.

ETA: bad syntax.

How are there 2 of these posts on the first page right now... Please listen to the feedback you are getting. Asking for someone to pay for your wedding/honeymoon is rude and tacky, especially at a bridal shower. As a guest, I would judge HARD and decline the invite.

Omg do NOT listen to @BrittanyC! That is horrific advice.

@Victoria all those "cute" little poems are RUDE and TACKY. Putting it in a poem does not make it less so. MOST people have to pay for their own weddings, so your situation is not unique.

There are so many double ring posters on here I can't keep them straight! Please change your avatar

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I love the idea of a travel theme or people bringing recipes instead of gifts! Or maybe a outdoor/backyard bbq theme? I never think about what I need to entertain outdoors until the last minute. Gently tell your friend that for the shower people feel uncomfortable bringing cash since the point of one is to give gifts, and you feel uncomfortable asking people to bring their checkbook like its a charity fundraiser. Suggest one of these alternatives or ask her to make a small registry with upgrades (towels, sheets, etc.)