Bridal Shower Cost

She has every right to request everything under the stars.

You have every right to comply or deny her this. Talk to her about budget restraints and if she doesn't feel like budging on the issue, politely decline to be her bridesmaid.

Is the budget an issue for just you or all of you?

Have a pow wow. "This is what we can afford to spend on X, Y and Z. To go to this place for X, it would cost this much. For shower in Y, it would cost this much." And figure out where the give and take is.

Hair/make up -- tell her that is she isn't picking up the tab, you will be doing it yourself, as you don't have extra money to spend on something you likely do for yourself all the time.

In general, there should have been a budget talk early on so that everyone knew everyone's expectations well enough beforehand to make an informed decision.

^^ Well stated OTW

But she really kind of sounds like she can't let go of control on her wedding. She shouldn't have any say in her bridal shower or bach party* if she isn't paying...

* One exception - I asked no penis decorations or tiaras -

I was just in a similar situation and I wanted so badly to tell the bride off. I sucked it up and went broke just to spare her feelings. I swear, she had us spending like we were the ones getting married. It's been two weeks since her wedding and I'd be happy if I didn't see her again for several months. This situation has seriously impacted our friendship.

Don't do what I did! Let her know how unreasonable her requests are or find a nice way to make her understand the financial burden she is placing on her wedding party. Dress, shoes, hair, makeup, and nails can break the bank all by itself. You may need to remind her to be mindful of all other expenses associated with being a wedding party. Or you can just bow out gracefully, if there is enough time to do so. I wish that I did.

Good luck!

Tell her, "wouldnt you rather us give you more money as a present or do you really want me to spend $650 on your wedding?"

Heres the thing, as a Bride She should have spoken to each of her bridesmaids about your budgets and what you can/cant spend money on. Because im guessing she is close to everyone and would not want to break anyones bank or single anyone out (for example everyone else can afford something but you type of thing)

Brides have a vision, so she does have a right to ask for whatever she wants however she shouldn't be selfish and should take all of your budgets under consideration.

If I were you I would talk to her about this, or at least speak to the MOH. & tell them your concerns of everything. Like I don't see why it should be a big deal that you do your own hair/make up because that gets costly. As a BM you shoul expect to fork out some money but that does seem like a bit much.. . . If she doesn't want to compropmise I would decline being a BM

I did a HP bridal shower for $700 and then her bachelorette party was $300. I really didn't wanna spend that much and I kinda hate that I did but oh well she was thrilled and now she's going over-the-top to help me out with my wedding

simply explain that you cannot afford all that so if she wants that, she needs to find another way

Ah fuck, put your foot down. NOW!