Bridal Shower, but no wedding, BUT a reception?

I'd say skip it.

I think an intimate shower would be nice. we did this for a friend who did just what your bf is doing.

her mom warmed up to the idea after she saw the enthusiasm building and then threw herself in full force

If you want to throw her a shower, that's great. Do it. Everyone invited to showers *should be* invited to the wedding/reception, so that's not a faux paus.

There is a ceremony, but it's private - which people do. You can still throw a shower.

I think that's a nice idea that your willing to do. Go for it! Your bf will appreciate it and her mom and sisters will change their minds and come.

My vote is for the GO FOR IT, side! The main expenses of a wedding, are usually reception related...so why not? How many could actually take off to Hawaii, for a wedding? I couldn't!

I think you should do it. some women do a very small ceremony followed by a larger reception on the same day (not Destination) and still have bridal showers. this is essentially the same thing

Mom sounds bitter that daughter isn't doing it her way. I say you do it and mom decides whether or not SHE wants to come.

I would also throw a shower, I think that's sweet that you want to do that, and I'm sure the bride will appreciate it.

Go for it! A nice intimate shower to send her off with love and support sounds great! People can decide if they want to show up or not. I think it is super sweet of you to do this for your eloping friend!!

Another vote Yes.

Many people opt for private ceremonies, it just happens that hers if on a different day then the reception. I do believe even Emily Post would say go for it!

I'm inthe minority on this. Not to say you shouldn't throw one for her, or she doesn't deserve one, but I would not attend a bridal shower if I did not attend a wedding. Again, just my opinion.

Also, I don't think the mother is upset because your friend didn't do things her way. In my opinion, she's old-school They are more traditional They believe things are done in order. Bridal showers do not happen before or without a wedding ceremony.

Go for it! A bridal shower is a way for a brides friends to support her. Originally they were intended for brides whose families were unsupportive or couldn't provide a dowry.

Yea there is a ceremony. I don't think it's a faux pas to have a shower but I don't think it's necessary either. If you want to do something small then go for it!

Does she want one?

Because if they are having a simple ceremony away from everyone it's possible she doesn't want all of that stuff.

I wouldnt say it is necessary at all (I wouldnt throw one)

We are having a shower and a reception but a private ceremony. It's pretty common