Bridal Shower and Monetary Gifts

Congrats, @Angel! That's the most disgusting idea I've heard today, and there have been a lot of bad ones!

As someone whose FH has worked in retail and has worked in retail before: You cannot return gifts for cash even with the receipt unless that is the method of payment that was used to pay for the gift. In this day and age, chances are your gift wasn't paid for with cash.

If you put a Honeyfund anywhere, you are getting a monogrammed physical gift from me.

You don't have to have a shower. I'm not. And it's not really about the fact that we can't use upgrades (though we did just buy a house and bought a lot of new stuff and got lots of housewarming gifts) but I am just honestly not interested in the whole shower as an event. If it is something you want though, you have to register for gifts. Someone here recommended registering on Amazon, you can get just about anything on there that could help with your renos. Or a hardware store?

Don't ask for money at your bridal shower. That is rude. You can decide not to have a registry for your wedding, but the shower is a gift event. Don't have one of you don't want physical gifts.

WOW! I rarely ever use this site and I can't believe all of the harsh comments I received simply by asking a question! Thank you though to those who actually gave other opinions. I appreciate the feedback.

Well there's OP! Seriously though? Harsh comments? You asked for a way to do this without being tacky (which shows that you thought it was tacky anyway at least a little bit) and people responded with honest advice because there's no way to do this without being tacky.

Some of the comments that you may be thinking of were directed towards another person that was violating the community guidelines so it was removed and being rude to other people. Otherwise I have no idea what you're talking about.

Honestly anyone that would be invited to a shower knows that we want to put an addition on our house before we have kids. I guess we just come from different backgrounds. I just simply didn't know if that was a thing people did or not. That's all.

Different "backgrounds" =equally tacky friends

You are not a freaking charity that your friends and family are donating to. Asking for cash = begging. Gross.

Its one thing to not register, hoping for cash gifts intsead. But if you choose not to do that, then you don't get a bridal shower.

Literally don't listen to anything @Angel suggested.

So you're going to have a bridal shower where people watch you open envelopes with money? That sounds ridiculous no matter what background you come from. You really don't need to ask for cash. People will give cash if they want to.

For fear of being the odd man out and sparking the next revolution I will offer you my opinion... I will be attending a bridal lunch this weekend where the bride is asking for cash instead of gifts. I wasn't offended and didn't even bat and eye when I read it on invitation. It's your wedding, do what you want. If someone really wants to give you a gift then offer them suggestions.

Also, your receiving advice on etiquette by women who can't even speak civically in a public chat room together.

Sarah- she's receiving advice on etiquette from many brides that actually believe etiquette is very important in a wedding and do a lot of research to get it right. Also, many of us actually do speak in a civil manner (civically isn't the correct word for what you're trying to say) to each other on a regular basis. I've actually seen some wonderful support on this forum from these women AND MEN (it's not just for ladies Sarah) that have truly helped people get through hard times. If you would lurk a little first you would know that we truly care about each other. The problem comes when people come in here knowing nothing about the forums and not bothering to lurk making judgements and saying people are "rude" when they are merely being blunt and trying to save you from being rude to your guests and being side eyed by your family.

Dear Sara, I do not believe asking for money for your bridal shower is tacky. I think that all of your friends and family will be more than understanding. It is your wedding, therefore it is your choice. As an engaged woman who already lives with her future husband, I totally get where you're coming from. If people don't like the idea of giving money of course they are free to give whatever they feel is appropriate. But, I believe that many people will appreciate the simplicity of a cash gift as opposed to looking through a registry and running to the store to purchase a gift on top of paying for wrapping plus a card. I do not believe you deserved any of these negative, extremely mean spirited and closed minded comments! A suggestion for asking for money for a bridal shower: " We are asking that instead of gifts for the bride you would consider donating to Sara's _______ fund." Fill in blank with home, honeymoon or whatever you choose. I like your idea of asking for cash and I intend to do the same!