Bridal Shower and Monetary Gifts

This is flat out ridiculous today, said the old ass officiant, who even being as close to death as she is, could use some new towels.

Have some class; make a little registy, you can even register for drywall. Think of it as a honey fund with the side eye.

If you REALLY don't need anything, don't have a shower. I personally hate the whole concept.

Tamara, you can get plenty of help. If you have a dumbass rude idea, people here will talk you out of it before your whole family is like, "what the fuck?"

Yes, Olivia. Apparently we are all "old ass middle aged mean girls" that need to start being more positive or keep our comments to ourselves.

@Tamara People aren't being "Bs", they're being blunt and honest. The ladies on here are going to tell you what your family and friends won't, which is refreshing and sometimes necessary instead of blowing smoke up someone's arse. If you stick around I think you'll find that this an awesome community.

For whoever called us "old ass middle aged mean girls"....

Thx, CJ and Celia

CJ-

blunt and honest are different from rude. I know I was rude when I had enough of seeing comments. Now, I don't think others know the difference. I'm on a lot of groups for different things but the the wedding police top the cake!

You know it.. bad boys bad boys whatchya gonna do whchya gonna do when they come for youuuuuuuuuuuu.

@Tamara - When an etiquette question is asked, we give a proper etiquette response. I'm not sure what your issue is.

JessieJV- Some were rude. She asked if it was tacky or how would you write without being tacky since I can't say how ppl would comment I'd say if I agreed with majority tacky and simply state why. Like some have and give other options like some have. I have definitely, wanted to say a lot on here like "Damn that dress is hideous. Don't do it" but I know that's rude and what others may do or like I won't. So in turn to help I might say something more uplifting to get "MY OPINION" across to help.

See, the problem is, we weren't rude. We were blunt. Very big difference. Also, when you specifically ask if something is tacky, you are going to get super blunt responses. I suggest toughening up. Otherwise, it's going to be a bumpy ride.

I still don't see a rude response from anyone towards OP. People being blunt and honest and answering her question, but not rude.

The other posters have it covered but Celia made me laugh out loud with "who even being as close to death as she is, could use some new towels."

I'm not having a registry, not having a shower. There are some things I wouldn't mind later on but I'll work on acquiring them myself once we have a bit more living space.

You know what I've always wondered. A little off topic but you may be able to answer Sara. Where do the we have lived together for years and have everything need" couples shop, that they don't need any upgrades? FH and I have lived together for years in 3 different apartments and we're always needing new shit. Are we shopping wrong?

@Laura - 7 years with FH and we are always talking about stuff to upgrade. He mocks my trips to IKEA with my girlfriends to pick stuff up for the house, but he knows we need it.

Just register for gifts at bed bath and beyond, you can always return them. And then go to Home Depot and register for gift cards. I wouldn't ask for cash, that is tacky

You can also put your honeymoon on your registry. People can help pay for it or purchase little add on for you guys. Like a couples massage

I am so confused by the Tamara show but...

Op you can always register for upgrades and items that you may not be able to afford for yourself but would be nice items to have in your home.

My friend Sass recommends the towel warmer. She raves about it.

DO NOT put honeymoon stuff on the registry.

1) it's tacky. Fund your own honeymoon

2) they take a percentage out of what is given on those sites so they aren't even giving you what they think you are

3) the company just gives you a check. You don't actually get those experiences just a portion of the money people wanted to give you so most of the time people don't do these things that people paid for anyway.

If people want to give you cash then they will give you cash.

Everything Angel said is wrong. Don't register for gifts just to return them. Don't register for a honeymoon fund.

Why do these posts always start with "me and my fh already live together." Most couples live together before marriage, it is still rude to ask for money!!!!!