Bridal shower 2nd time

No personal experience, but I don't think so. Two people in my family had second marriages and they did not get a shower.

We're often a lot nicer when you don't tell us how to post.

I find no problem with a bridal shower for second marriages, but you only have a shower if someone offers to throw you one. You never, never, never throw one for yourself.

Telling us to be nice it's actually kinda rude and makes people not want to respond.

I think so long as you are currently unmarried and going to get married soon, you are permitted to have a bridal shower. After all, people cant assume you want to use bed sheets you used with your former spouse, however much years ago that was. So yes if you are getting married and are registered, someone friend/family/BP may host a bridal shower for you.

I am not sure. I don't see anything wrong with having one even if you get married 6 times.

@Renee d & @Chica

I don't think she meant it to be rude or mean. I just think people have become apprehensive about posting questions because sooo much negativity comes out that she was kind of throwing it out there. Maybe this is a sensitive subject for her.

2nd marriage showers aren't really common, but nothing says you can't have one.

If someone offers to host a shower for you, you get a shower. If not, you don't. I don't think being married before matters. (Also, it's rude to tell us how to post. I have found that most people on here are nice and tend to give great advice. Sometimes it's harsh, sometimes it's blunt, but it's almost never mean spirited and is usually what needs to be said.)

I mean if someone offers one to you then you get one! I don't think there's a rule that you can't have a shower for a second marriage, but as you know it's not something you throw yourself so it's not really in your hands.

Cool. Thanks for all the responses. And no I didn't mean to be rude, I apologize if it was taken that way. I have seen some conversations go the wrong way on here but overall I enjoy reading and posting when I can. I have used the site and other people's responses to questions as a guide in some of my own decision making. So no worries and once again forgive me if it came off wrong. Thanks everyone.

I was a second time bride. My MOH threw me a shower.

@Latisha never did I think you were being rude or mean. I saw you posted a genuine question, and I (and @Tamara) responded by stating that I saw nothing wrong with you having a shower. Enjoy your shower girl.

Idk what @Monica is talking about. But I digress. lol.

My brother just recently remarried. Both 2nd marriages for them. Neither side threw a bridal shower as they have everything they need and are combining households. They also said no to the mere mention of the idea!

This is my second marriage. I do not want a shower. My mom asked me if I wanted one but I just wouldn't feel right. I feel bad that she spent all that money first time around. She also isn't contributing to the wedding financially, which is ok by us. I think it's perfectly fine if you want one, it's your decision. I just didn't personally want one. My bridesmaids did offer to throw me a bachelorette party though which I'm really stoked about!

Personally, I don't see a problem with having pre-wedding events for established couples or 2nd+ marriages. I feel it more of a tradition than necessarily 'showering' the bride with household goods for their 1st home.

I wasn't sure if I even wanted one (opening gifts in front of a bunch of people, isn't my thing); but my BP/sisters are already in planning mode. It'll be great to see everyone-n-such. We will just have a small reg for a few upgrade items n may be some camping items.

A bridal shower is not a given for a first wedding either. It all depends on whether or not someone wants to do it for the bride (or couple). So if someone offers to do one for you, fine, if not, don't stress it.

If someone offers it, take them up on it!

I would only side-eye or refuse a second shower if it was within 5 years of the first wedding.

I'm getting married for the second time and have been offered a shower. But it is my FH's first marriage. I think 2nd weddings are like 2nd and 3rd babies... they don't always garner the same attention but are equally special and should be treated as such.

I'm planning my second wedding. My FMIL and FSIL had a small shower for me. You may not need a ton of things but it's still nice to be able to celebrate your upcoming wedding.

I do come from a very traditional family and showers for second weddings is odd to them. In fact, my great grandmother (when she was alive), said she didn't give gifts for 2nd weddings.

I didn't for my second... it's not overly common- but circumstances are different for everyone ---

I wouldn't think twice about going to a bridal shower for a second marriage - I mean, I wouldn't even think of it being an issue. Unless maybe the bride was a shitty host for the first wedding lol.