Bridal Party Plus Ones

I did not have the SOs at the head table - if they were that important they would have been standing.

I had a table up front very close to the head table for most of the SOs. They all had met each other at least once prior so there was no awkwardness.

Just make sure they're sitting with people they know-- DH was a groomsman in *two* weddings of close friends where I had to sit at the 'reject significant other table' with all the other SOs of the bridal party, none of whom I Knew, while tables full of close friends were nearby-- how annoying!

I am a very shy person, so if I was someones date to a wedding where I didn't know anyone and then I wasn't allowed to sit with my date, it would be a pretty awkward evening for me.

Find a way to make it work so that the wedding party can sit with their dates.

In any case, I find traditional head tables so outdated now. It's awkward to sit up on display in front of everyone, and sitting side by side in a row is not a great way to have a conversation. There are so many different - and better - options now. And if you have never seen anything but a traditional head table - be different! You don't have to do the same thing as every wedding you've seen, and your wedding party will love you for it.

@ L&G Thank you!!! This is exactly what's happening with me. We dont have the room or space to have all the dates sit with us and sweetheart wasn't an option. I'm hoping it will be okay as I don't have another option! We are hoping to have them sit as close together as possible.

I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where we sat at the head table and our dates sat at other tables...it sucked...why even invite a date if you can't sit with them....

Let them sit together. Everyone will know who your bridal party is... really

I tried, very unsuccessfully, to ban the head table. The bridesmaids insisted upon it, calling it part of the fun to at a special table, front and center. I was planning on doing a sweetheart, with the bp and their so's at tables.

Buttttt, I think that is such a new concept around here and I personally have never seen it at wedding or even heard of it til WW/Pinterest, so that's probably they looked at me with two heads.

We have a super small bridal party. 3 each. My sister is married, my brother in law will be seated with my parents. Two other singles (well, technically one is not, but her bf is a bit anti-social, so wont be attending, idk, she could care less, so neither do I, whatever works for her) and so they aren't even gonna have guests. On his side, his brothers live-in girlfriends will be seated with his sisters, the only other immediate family members he has. The groomsman is single as of today but who knows what will happen as far as guest for him goes.

To add to this back many years ago most people in the bridal party were still single. Now a days more wedding party members are already married or have their own family. If a sweetheart table is not possible what about the kings table. That's what we will be doing. Also for a previous poster the ceremony for the most part is shorter then dinner, you really can't compare the two.

We'll be having a sweetheart table. The wedding party will be seated with their s/o's and spouses.

We are having a sweetheart table, which is most common in our area. Our BP is sitting at tables so their SO's with be sitting with them there. I have been in many weddings but only one where I had to sit at a head table and my FH (then-boyfriend) did not sit with me. LUCKILY my parents and siblings were also at this wedding, so he at least knew who he was sitting with. But it SUCKED to not be able to sit with him (or my family!) at the wedding and be stuck at the head table alone (it was my close friend's wedding but I was not friends with the other members of the BP). It would have been really awkward for FH if he didn't know anyone else but me at the wedding!

The majority of my BMs and his GM have someone (wives, fiances, bf/gf etc.) so we're going to have a sweetheart table and let them sit with their significant others.

I went to a wedding during the summer and FH was the best man. I had to sit at a table with seven people who I didn't know, for this reason, the wedding wasn't very enjoyable for me. We are having a sweetheart table cause I want all my guests to sit with people they know and really enjoy the reception.

Agreed with some of the feedback- sweetheart tables tend to be the trend these days, I think largely in part to this very topic of dates! I mean, also it's nice to have that sweet intimate table with just the newlyweds. Is it possible to have your bridal party at dedicated/special tables close-by, but sitting with their +1s?

We're having a head table for us and the bridal party....there are two married couples standing up and the others all have other people they are friends with invited to the wedding so thats where the S/Os will sit

Both the BM and GM are part of FH's family, so their wives will not have a problem finding someone to sit with, and one of my BMs does not have a SO, the other is married, so he's the only one that would be a concern. I'm planning on having him sit with my grandpa since they have met before.

I am having the bridal party and their SO sit at a table near us.

This wasn't a issue for our wedding, but when my husband was a best man at his brother's wedding he was sat at the head table with all the attendants and I was sat at a table with some relatives.

I didn't really mind not being sat with the husband, but me and my young step-bil (was about 12 at the time) didn't really enjoy listening to my FIL complain about his ex wife all night so we just kept making excused to leave the table I kept having to get u to introduce myself to relavites and young BIL kept getting up to swipe people's chocolate favors when they weren't looking. always makes me laugh when I think about it.

And what about when they take pictures of the head table do you really want all these other people in you pictures? Probably most times the dates will know someone else there that you can sit them with.