Bridal Party Plus Ones

Personally, it's a major pain when a significant other is part of the wedding and they have to sit separately. I vote for setting the tables up so that the bridal party and dates can sit together at the same table.

We're just having a sweetheart table for us and having our BP sit at the first few tables in front of ours. That way they can sit with their dates.

I think it is a pain to be a SO and not sit with your SO regardless if they are in the wedding party or not.

Our solution was a harvest table (a LONG table that people sit on both sides) that we had family and friends sit around and had us at the head of the table sitting next to each other...and round tables around the harvest table on either side filled with more friends and family.

The plus ones should be with their dates. so the new question is where should your bridal party be. and that depends on how big the head table is and how big your party is. maybe just MOH and bestman with their dates at the head table if the table fits 6 but not everyone? i would not split up the wedding party any more than that

For me it depends if they know other people or not. I have a table of BP spouses together that don't really know anyone else. A sweetheart table isnt an option at our venue unless a lot of people don't come, so we are stuck with a traditional head table. If they know other people we sat them at tables of people they know. Since its just for dinner I am hoping that will be okay. My FH has been the one at a random table many times when I've been a BM, no its not ideal, but its fairly typical, at least in Western Canada where sweetheart tables have not become the norm yet.

It would be weird to go anywhere with a date and not sit with them. A wedding shouldn't any different.

"Hey honey, let's go to the movies but i'll sit in this row - can you go sit in the back row? K, thx!"

All of the plus ones are good friends with our friends that will be at the other tables.

They should be with their dates. Do a King's Table if a head table won't fit them, or a sweetheart table and let them sit together with other friends.

Our two best men are best friends with each other and we still sat them with their date/spouse. We did a sweetheart table and then our bridal party sat with their spouse AND friends.

We're doing a sweetheart table. Bridal party will sit (with spouse/SO) at nearest tables along with a family table near us.

We're having a kings table but it sounds like you're unable to do so. I would place them as close as you can to the head table or just have a sweet heart table and save all that trouble.

I have the same issue as you with not having a large enough table. So I asked each person from my wedding party on where they would like to sit. My MOH who is my sister asked to sit at my parents table and one of the groomsmen asked if he and his wife could sit with their adult kids. The rest of the wedding party wanted to sit with us.

I say with their dates. My FH was BM in a wedding last year and I hardly got to talk to him at all the entire night; which is somewhat ok - I know he's there for his buddy, but it was just awkward for me.

Almost all of my couples do sweetheart tables with their BP and SO's at tables, together, close by.

And that's a good idea @maybride - just ask them where they prefer.

I'm personally not a fan of having the wedding party sit away from their dates. I've been the awkward date of a groomsman and even though I knew the other guest I wanted the company of my significant other throughout dinner.

We aren't having a head table or even a sweetheart table. We're sitting at a table with our MOH, BM, their dates, and a few other members of our party. I don't want to be constantly interrupted while attempting to eat and I feel like the sweetheart table invites guest to constantly come up.

I know people are going to hate me for this but we didn't have our wedding party members sit with their dates either, but they sat at tables with their friends so they honestly didn't mind. It was just for an hour at dinner out of the entire 8 hour reception. I mean the SOs weren't standing up at the alter with our wedding party members, they sat in pews with their family/friends so why do they have to sit at the wedding party table during dinner? They were sitting at the closest table next to us and like I said they were with their own friends, if any of them were coming completely single without knowing any other guests sure we would've considered doing just a sweetheart table or having their dates up there too but that wasn't the case. I really hate to think of any etiquette rules as black or white, it's always a know your crowd thing and has a lot to do with regional differences too. Good luck!

We are doing a sweetheart table and having our BP with their dates at a regular table next to us

I like the sweetheart table idea, and BP can sit with their SOs

I had the bridal party plus ones sit with our friends, and I put our friends table as one of the closest tables to the head table. That way the head table was just the wedding party, but their plus ones weren't far off. Also, I knew the plus ones would get along well with the friends we invited and I wanted to give them a chance to meet and socialize.