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Bridal Party Plus ones...? Thoughts please!

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Madelayna, on April 4, 2017 at 10:29 PM

I've read past forums about BP plus ones but haven't found a situation quite like mine. I've allowed my MOH a plus one. And my only BM is married and her husband will be in the BP as well. My FH will have two non-married men in the BP and I'm wondering if they should be given plus ones as well. I know this sounds like common sense to! But give me a chance...my MOH will be my only friend attending the wedding. ONLY friend. My only BM is my FSIL. As for my FH, he will be inviting 20 friends to the wedding. Due to budget we cannot let them have plus ones (none of them are married so far). The two men in the BP are extremely close with a group of 10 of the friends that will be invited so they won't be lonely at all. I'm letting my MOH have a plus one because she knows only my Mother well and my Brother (her ex boyfriend) and I thought she should have someone to be there with. Just wondering if the two GM should be given a plus one IF they are not in relationships when the time comes.

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Super July 2017
Sagan · on April 5, 2017 at 12:40 PM
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Your bridal party should always be given a plus one. FH was BM in his friend's wedding when we had been together for about six months and I was not invited to the wedding. He had spent $500 on an additional "man day" because the groom's fiancé (now wife) insisted on a joint bachelor/bachelorette party, in addition to his tux, contributions toward the bach party, etc. To me, it tells me that neither the groom nor his wife care much for my FH, despite his being chosen as best freaking man.
Don't be like that bride. She's an asshole.
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MrsLabrec · on April 5, 2017 at 12:44 PM
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Personally, I would be upset if I was in a BP and Adam couldn't attend.
Plus ones are hard. I get it. It adds up super fast but, would you attend a wedding without your SO? It would be awkward.
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CMC · on April 5, 2017 at 12:50 PM
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@Hannah: plus ones are for single guests. Everyone in a relationship should be invited together as a couple.
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Super May 2017
FutureMrs2017 · on April 5, 2017 at 12:50 PM
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As someone who has had to both be in and attend weddings alone - for the love of all that is holy - give.your.single.guests.plus.ones.
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Super September 2017
J. Snow · on April 5, 2017 at 1:24 PM
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My bridal party will have plus ones, specifically those who are married, engaged or in long term relationships. However, I have three that are single. A plus one will be optional but not mandatory (some felt they needed one) they have said they may not bring a date. If anyone will be given plus ones it will be them since they'll be shelling out money for other festivities and their time.
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FaithD_2017 · on April 5, 2017 at 1:38 PM
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4 out of 6 of my BM's are coming from out of state, and I offered plus ones to them all but they declined.
I would ask them if they want one.
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Madelayna · on April 5, 2017 at 7:51 PM
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Thanks for all the responses guys. My MOH is not single. His two groomsmen are truly single. We have decided to give them plus like lots of you have said. You're right it's courtesy. As for his friends, actually out of the 20+ friends maybe 5 of them has SO's but we only know 1 or 2 of them. I know it's a social until and everything I would be pissed if I wasn't invited to my FH's friends wedding so they'll be invited. As for our single guests we just can't afford it :/
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Madelayna · on April 5, 2017 at 7:56 PM
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Accidentally responded twice haha
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FutureMrsN · on April 5, 2017 at 8:16 PM
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I agree with the above comments...we are only giving plus ones to those in the BP, but they are ALL getting them (or their SOs). Other than that we have mostly guests in relationships, who are of course, all invited with their partners. The BP does a lot for the day and honestly should get the chance to bring someone if they want.
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