Bridal Party Expectations

I’m expecting my matron of honor (just one bridal party member each for us) to wear the color dress we agreed upon, show up, get ready with me & just enjoy the day with me. She offered to throw me a bridal shower and bachelorette party. I decline the bridal shower and hopefully we’ll still be able to do some sort of bachelorette party or spa weekend. The only thing I did ask her is if she wants to do a speech and she does. I occasionally ask her for opinions on things but nothing crazy.

View Quoted Comment Ditto! I didn’t know this Reddit wedding shaming thing existed until now- but now I can’t look away! 😂😂

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Wear an approved dress, show up on time. Are the pre wedding events nice? Of course but I wouldn't be mad if they didn't. But I'm grateful for sure that my MOH has gone above and behind.

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I expected them to wear the color I asked them to, and to show up day of.

I hoped for emotional support, which I got, because they are still my friends, and for a little special attention in the form of shower/bachelorette, which they also did, because they know what I like and how I like to have fun.

Bonus that 2 members of our BP actually took us to a baseball game, for DH's favorite player's retirement. Since we fell in love because we both love the same (absolutely godawful) team, this was just sheer bliss for us.

I expect my bridesmaids to wear the dress we pick out, and smile for the photos. My maid of honor will do the planning for the bachelorette, with some of the other bridesmaids helping. But if a bridesmaid or two can't make the bachelorette or the bridal shower, so be it. My mom says she wants to host my bridal shower, so the bridesmaids don't have to get involved there.

Also how is it that I'm only now just aware of the existence of that subreddit? My fiance is on Reddit daily, and has never mentioned it to me.

That subreddit is amazing😂😂 I've been skimming through the posts for like the last 20 minutes. I'm going to be late today 😂

I’m personally just asking them to show up on the day of the wedding, along with hopefully the bachelorette & bridal shower. I’ve been asking their opinions sometimes on planning-related things, but definitely not relying on them to help plan in the slightest just because I kinda like doing it with just my mom and my FH

That's a good question! If I were having one, I would expect them to just continue being emotionally supportive like they always have been. I wouldn't require them to go out qnd buy a new dress, they can wear a nice one that they already own. I also would expevt us to do one gathering in lieu of a bachelorette party. It can be simple like brunch or an activity like horseback riding.

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They were invited to 2 showers and a bachelorette night out but in no way required to attend. I purchased their dresses and paid for hair and makeup if they wanted (some did, some didn't). Other than that, they were expected to show up at the appointed time on my wedding day, wear the dress, and walk down the aisle.....that's it.

View Quoted Comment Omg I didn't read that one either. She sounds like if you looked up the definition to bridezilla her picture would be next to it.


My expectations for my bridesmaids is to show up on time to the wedding wearing the correct dress. Show up to the rehearsal dinner. And to be my emotional support system. And to correct me if I'm going on the bridezilla side. Also I want my girls to have fun.

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Show up, support me during this time by listening to wedding details/rants, & have fun! My bridal party had some drama in the beginning but now its the 7 most important people to me and we are enjoying every minute of this. We have an active group chat, I discuss everything with them and we really all get along and love each other. I am truly blessed with the group I have because they just want to help me celebrate this time in my life.

I don’t really expect anything from my bridal party. I only have two bridesmaids, my sister and best friend. They have been helpful as far as getting their opinion when I ask but not much else other than that. I let them pick out their own dresses, which are black, so definitely something they can keep. I’m not having a bridal shower or bachelorette part/trip so there’s not that much to do. I’m also not doing any DIYs so there’s nothing that I need help assembling.