Bridal party annoyance

May 16, 2020. Coming up faster than it seems! Yours is probably closer since you're talking about bachelorette parties

Your bridesmaids are not your unpaid party planners. It's yours and your FI's job to plan a wedding, not theirs. Tell them what dress to order and invite them to bridal showers or pre-wedding parties if you're having them. It's not required that they throw you any, or that they attend. Just treat them like friends and leave your wedding out of it other than giving them the essential info (time, date, outfit, day-of schedule, etc).

You are exactly right on this!

'no one will be as excited about your wedding as yourself!'

Ohhhh...oh my. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

I definitely went through waves of annoyance at my bridal party throughout the planning process. I think each one of them had their time that I was annoyed at them for one thing or another. But come the wedding everyone really came together and I'm glad I never gave up on any of them.

While I didn't cancel all the activities if I could go back and not have a bridal party (just my sister as my MOH) I would have. Two many incidences have happened with two of my best friends that have been highly annoying regarding my events that I would never ever do to them. My one bridesmaid and my sister are the only ones acting like normal human beings about everything. We are going to Vegas for my bachelorette this weekend so wish me luck that nobody is making snide remarks to each other cuz I'll lose it. I also invited two extra friends so I am just hoping it goes well.

Just some examples of stupid stuff that was really unnecessary: bickering about the shoe color choice, picking a shoe color without asking the other girls first, not contacting my mom back about the dress alteration she graciously offered to do for them (will they tip her? who knows I don't - I am sure I'll hear about it), demanding an early flight because the whole trip won't be worth it if we got there too late in the day, demanding we don't go to a country bar in vegas but then goes out with us to our local one around here (makes sense right?), didn't pay my mom for the $25 for the banquet room for my bridal shower when everyone hosted it, denied receiving text messages about their group gift for my shower so just goes off and buys her own. Just a whole lot that has made me really annoyed with them when everything should have been so simple, and like I said I would never do any of it to them for their wedding.

Honestly, there's so much drama going on with my girls it's ridiculous... a big blowout w my FH family went down yesterday, and I end up with his sister no longer in the party, so many reason on both sides, it was NOT easy getting to that, but honestly I think it'll be easier on both of us. My other girls have been present when I need them, but one is graduating high school this year and the other is in her second year of college, so they're both busy. But they put in the effort that they can, so that's enough for me ... they haven't been too bad to work with. Scheduling is the worst part, but we all know that we're all busy and planning isn't going to be perfect. But we're down to 9 months!

I totally relate! I had to basically tell one (ex)bridesmaid that it would be better if she attended as a guest because since my bridal party proposals, she quit the job we worked at together, moved away, and hasn't spoken to me very much at all. I am happy for her because she has a lot of things going on in her life, but she isn't in the right place to be in my wedding anymore.

All of my bridesmaids (coming in from out of town or not) agreed on staying together in a house for the wedding weekend. Another bridesmaid who is coming from out of town (who did not get a plus one, she has multiple friends who are attending the wedding so she won't be alone) messaged me TELLING me (not asking) that she is bringing a random friend who I have never met. She said she's not bringing the friend to the wedding, but she will be staying with my bridal party in the house...??? We are using the house for 80% of the bachelorette party and I feel so uncomfortable with either having her participate (since we have never met) or having her sit alone in her room with the door shut while she listens to us having fun. My MOH and I are so taken back and don't know what to do. She said if she can't have the friend stay, she will pull out and get their own hotel room, making it more expensive for everyone else to split the cost of the house. Also, she won't even have time to spend with this random person. The bachelorette party is all day and night on the 18th, the rehearsal begins at 3 with dinner afterward on the 19th, and she'll be getting ready and being in the wedding all day on the 20th. SO stressful.

One of my other bridesmaids just seems generally disinterested when I bring the wedding up.

Moral of the story: YES!

Getting married the week before you and much later to this stage than you, but I'm here now!!! So over everything. Really disappointed in 2 of my bridesmaids and its making me really resent things.

Oh god, I'm sorry. Almost no one went to mine either (it wasn't a surprise though - my mom just wanted to throw one. For the record I HATE them).