Bridal party annoyance

Hey, Juli! What exactly is making you annoyed with your bridal party?

I have definitely been annoyed with my wedding party at times but theres no one id have wanted there with me but them. No matter the little annoyances I may have felt, they were the people I wanted most up there.

I think sometimes we may also be in more of a sensitive state while wedding planning because we are more stressed and so it could just be easy triggers as well.

View Quoted Comment I just feel like they haven’t really been there for me during the stressful times. I have not been a bridezilla at all lol. I have 3 close friends and 3 sister in laws in my bridal party. I understand that everyone has priorities, but I feel like mine isn’t. There’s been a lot of excuses and lies as to planning stuff, that takes away the excitement. If that makes sense.

View Quoted Comment I think so too. When I gave the proposals, everyone seemed so eager and genuinely happy to plan. When it came to the actual planning, nobody was really there but 1 of my bridesmaids. Maybe it’s jusg a stressful phase at the moment.

I totally understand.

We decided to not have a wedding party. I will ask a few girl friends to get ready with me/spend the morning with me and fiance will get ready with his 3 brothers and a few friends, but no wedding party and no expectations.

I'm sorry your dealing with this. Maybe just a quick convo with one of them? Like hey I'm really stressed out maybe we can go grab dinner? And leave the wedding talk behind and just be friends? I think we tend to get wrapped up in the wedding and forget everyone else's life is happening.

Yes! Everyone volunteered/assumed that they were in the Bridal Party. I had to replace 2 (one got married 2 weeks before me and I had already let her know that I couldn’t do both). The other was rushing to get married before the other 2 of us because she had gotten engaged first. She was “too busy” to pick a 💃👗or even respond to the text about having one selected by 5/15.

Then, she stopped talking to me.

I do NOT regret not inviting her though.

Kind of. I have a cousin who volunteered herself to be a bridesmaid. She's annoyed me from the start. Complained to my mom because all the bridesmaids got proposal boxes but her 🙄. Then complained to my mom because I never told her the colors she needed wear (my mom told her). Mind you I never told her yes and I told her repeatedly that I had a full bridal party. This past week she sent me these extravagant dresses with trains as long as mine that she is wanting to wear. I flat out told her that she is not a bridesmaids. Now she is asking if she can have a plus one because she'll have a boyfriend by then.

Honestly, I’m annoyed with my girls too. They are great and I love them all but I feel like they aren’t as interested in everything as they should be. The only one who’s offering help is the one that’s also planning her own wedding so I don’t want to put more stress on her. My MOH (sister) has a full plate and I get that, but she acts so annoyed when I talk wedding. I know it gets old but I’m 3 months out and need to get things done.🙄

also slightly annoyed because my FH aunt has “planned my bachelorette party” (without asking or consulting anyone) and is so excited for “a wild night of dancing and it’s fine cause all 7-9 of us can sleep in the same motel room - she has an air mattress”🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ She’s trying to be helpful but I just want her to chill. She’s stressing me out.

Yes. One of my bridesmaids asked me if she needed to be present before the start of the ceremony. Um, yes. I was so dumb founded i couldnt even respond. I already assume i cant count on her for anything after that remark.

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I totally should have done that lol. I am not too big on confrontations, but I have actually had conversations with my maid of honor and bridal party. I have tried meeting up with them. All but one live within 5-20 mins away from each other. It's just it's not their "priority" to meet. I understand everyone has a life and responsibilities, but even a reply to a text would be nice. I haven't really spoken to them for like a week. I'm just over it. If they plan a bridal shower, ok and if not, I am not gonna stress it anymore.

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Omg yeah I would definitely be annoyed!

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Oh wow. What did she say when you flat out told her no? I just can't deal with someone asking for a plus one for a wedding, especially if she might not have a boyfriend by then lol.

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I feel the same way. My best friend is my bridesmaid and I am hers as well. She gets married in November and we both totally understand why we haven't been present in each others plannings. Which with her, I am not annoyed with because we're going through the same thing. You know what I've told myself lately (with planning wedding stuff) that if I want it done correctly, I will have to do it myself. My fiancé and I have planned everything. The only times the bridesmaid decided to have an input was for their dresses and even that it was a mission lmao.

You can talk to your aunt and thank her for her efforts, but to maybe tone it down a little?

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Lmao wow. I am kinda relieved that I am not the only one going through this with bridal party. I honestly thought I was the only one having annoyances with them. I have 6 bridesmaids and only 1 is going to my bachelorette. The other day, my sister-in-law asked me if I was available to go out with her the weekend I am going away. My reply to her was "Seriously? lol I am not even here that weekend that you should be with me lmao!"

View Quoted Comment Right!? I've been MOH in two weddings and i would have never acted like this. I did whatever the bride requested and even took unpaid days from work to attend events. Luckily 2/3 of my bridesmaids are good ones, hopefully you have some rockstars on your crew too.

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I know! I just feel like it's that persons ONE day to be showered with love surrounded by friends and family. I have 2/6 that are good lmao. I feel like I have gotten out of my way for them, but they can't do the same. Which is the frustrating part.

When is your wedding?

View Quoted Comment She was upset, but told me she would get over it. She is that one family member I try to avoid at family functions, she's an one upper. She's 10 years older than me and has never had a steady boyfriend. I told her I wasnt comfortable with having a stranger at the wedding. So now she's not coming 🤷🏾‍♀️.

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It's totally fine for you to feel disappointed, but try to not let this get you down Something that helped me is that nobody will be as excited for your wedding as you are.

I'm currently annoyed at one bridesmaid but it is not wedding related. Have a talk with your bridesmaids to explain to them your expectations.