BP Question

Calling them "honorary bridesmaids" feels pretty snooty to me.

Yeah, like you almost made it to being a BM, but not quite. The longer I'm on here the less I feel like handling entitled people with kid gloves. You are not the first person to need greeters at your wedding! Stop trying to create new customs that don't exist that are an inconvenience to your friends! You don't propose to your greeters, you graciously ask if they can do you a favor. You don't need to worry about what they wear, people will know their role because they will be standing there greeting!

Edit: wording, spelling

Or hire someone to direct traffic to the ceremony area. Or get a sign and borrow a sign frame from the aquarium. Asking someone to essentially do the lowest paying part time position at Walmart is not an honor.

I don't understand the venue dictating how many GM/BM you can have...I have never heard of that...what if you wanted more?? I have a friend that got married and had 8 of each not counting BM/MOH...

I know my cousins would rather do something in the wedding than just be a guest. Maybe I could let them know the color and make it optional for them to get a special dress. I know I buy a new dress for weddings even attending just as a guest, so it shouldn't be a big deal. Also, I would never ask anyone to get their hair and makeup done for one day, not even my bridesmaids.

I would wait and see if they ask about what they should wear. Ms. Manners is even against people dictating to their BM to dress a certain way. Obviously she can be extreme but I agree with her sentiment. I didn't want to have BMs at all initially because I didn't feel comfortable with all the customs around it and choosing between my friends. In the end I just had my sisters and niece stand up with me. They chose their outfits, coordinating a bit with my wedding style and I asked my closest friends to be there with me to get ready and graciously asked some of them to help me with greeting etc. I bought them a gift too out of appreciation. No fake title was needed to acknowledge how they supported me.

"Also, I would never ask anyone to get their hair and makeup done for one day, not even my bridesmaids."

Yes. Yes you did say that you would ask them to get ready.

I am sorry but this is just SO RUDE. I feel so horrible for your cousins, asked to buy a new a dress to do what people do for $5/hr at Walmart. Just get some signs, please.

By "get ready with the bridal party" I meant hang out in the room and get dressed with us, do makeup, hair, etc. We are all doing our own or helping each other. No one is being paid to get us ready. It's just a term, like I "get ready" every morning.