Bouquet/garter toss

We didn’t have many single people. We skipped it. I don’t think anyone missed it. I know we didn’t. We did an anniversary dance. Not really in its place, but we added it.

I've seen people skip them entirely and not replace it with anything

My fiance and I are skipping them and not replacing them with anything. Here is an article with some alternatives to the tosses though! https://www.theknot.com/content/amphtml/alternatives-to-garter-and-bouquet-toss

I think it depends on how many single people you have at your wedding. We had very few single people so it would have been pointless. I've seen people do the shoe game or anniversary dance in place. One of our friends did the anniversary dance in place and gave the bouquet to the longest married couple which was the groom's grandparents. They knew in advance they were the longest married couple though. We did a trivia game with our guests. We had about 10 questions about us they had answer on a piece of paper in advance then they came onto the dance floor and if they got the question wrong they went back to their seats. The last remaining 10 people got a prize. It was fun to see how well our guests knew us.

We have no issue with either of them other than there is no reason for anyone to be pressured to participate. Those who do take part do so because they want to and enjoy themselves.


The garter removal/toss that you see on youtube is downright pornographic material and has no business at an event with family and friends.
Prior to WW I had never heard of the garter catcher and bouquet catcher supposed to hook up. That is not happening and lucky for us, even with projected guests from all over the country, none of them have heard of it either.

I’ve disliked them at weddings and felt them outdated. We are skipping and not adding anything in place. Most of the recent weddings I’ve been to have skipped them.

We skipped both and didn't replace them with anything. We didn't do the bouquet toss because we didn't have all that many single guests in attendance, and we didn't do the garter toss because we feel that the tradition is sexist.

I also skipped both and didn't replace them with anything. I've definitely been to more weddings without them than with them in the past ~10 years.

I threw my bouquet to my special needs sister out of a convertible send off -she loved it! I just wanted to see her smile and have a special moment 🌸 my now husband is rather a proper type 😂 and he opted out of the garter toss - just not his thing ❤️

Most of our friends are either married or in a committed relationship. I’m doing a twist & still having the bouquet/garter toss. Going to attach scratch tickets & have all the single & attached ladies participate. Same with the garter toss.

I would skip it completely. Haven't seen this lately at weddings.

Skipping it entirely. Will also do an anniversary dance just to celebrate other couples, but don't have that many single friends plus, no one wants to watch my new husband put his face that close to my crotch and dig out a piece of elastic that was way too tight and uncomfortable for me to wear all day!

We skipped them and replaced them with the anniversary dance. We knew his grandparents would be the couple married longest, and it was a really nice moment. I love the pictures of me giving his grandmother the toss bouquet.

We are avoiding all the traditional stuff with the exception of a first dance. I haven’t seen a bouquet or garter toss in at least 12 years either. But then again maybe you’ll bring it back with new style!

We skipped it and definitely don’t miss it at weddings we attend lol

Yea the garter toss always made me incredibly uncomfortable to watch. The man taking off the garter and the female guest sitting uncomfortable while their dates watch them touch someone else, yea. Usually they are embarrassed and don’t really want to do it.


That was a big fat no from us. I didn’t replace it and didn’t miss it.

We aren’t doing either one, and aren’t replacing them with anything. It’s a personal choice of course, but personally I find these traditions terribly antiquated so they didn’t just make sense for us.

We skipped it entirely, though I did give my sample bouquet to a couple that had just gotten engaged.

There's no need to replace it with anything, if you don't want to do it.

Skipping both! Not for me.

Up to you. I don't mind it. It's one last bit of silly and I'm looking forward to it. It's a tease for us as a couple and even with the many of guests invited being married or in a long term relationship its still fun.