Bouquet/Garter Toss - Do people still do them?

It's also tradition to f*ck before the reception, to consummate.

I'm not doing it b/c I don't want to, and the above reasoning should show why "It's tradition!" is not a good enough argument for me.

I planned on not doing it, then FH said "Why not? You have to do it" ew why? no.

I'm not doing it either, since most of our friends are married with kids already.

People do still do it. At the last 2 weddings I went to it was done. (I am not doing either).

My previous post wasn't really helpful lol. No you don't have to do anything you don't want to. Hardly any of my guest are single and it's awkward. I've been to weddings that didn't do it, don't worry about it.

It's you day, have it your way.

A lot of people skip the tosses now. We're not doing either. I am going to give away my bouquet to the longest married couple though. If you want to do them, you could look into alternatives like that. But if you don't want to do them, don't. It's yours and your FH's decision alone, not your families.

I did one, but I had a lot of unmarried couples and single friends at the wedding. We enjoyed it and it was fun for our friends. No one was forced out for it and it was a bunch of people ranging from 18-28 not young kids.

I think it is very dependent on your crowd.

Don't do it if you don't want to. Why waste the money on a toss bouquet and garter?

I hate the meanings behind them, I hate the thought of being manhandled by FH in front of 150 people, and I think most people hate participating in them.

Reasons why I'm personally not doing them, anyway!

The last 2 weddings I've been to the couple did the garter toss but not the bouquet. Seems like a lot of couples are doing Anniversary dances.

I'm not doing it either. We don't have many single people coming and it's just awkward. We are doing an anniversary dance. You should look into something like that instead!

We are. I thought about not having "the toss", but when we first started planning that was one of the few things FH said he was looking forward too. FH is excited about the wedding, but he is into the garter toss the way I am into having the perfect shoes.

There will be about 25 single/not married women and only about 10 single men.

The wedding I went to over the weekend did it.

It was always my least favorite part of a wedding as a single lady...I would not subject my friends to such torture. And the garter toss? Ew. We're giving my bouquet to the longest married couple as well.

Wow manhandled. That seems like a harsh term.

My bridesmaids have requested that I do the bouquet toss, so we'll be doing that. But we definitely aren't doing the garter toss.

Yeah we're not having many single people at our wedding either, but FH wanted to do it. He has been so good and helpful and non demanding this whole time that I figured, why not just let him have it . But if you and FH don't want it and family does, do what you and FH want. As long as your properly hosting you're guests, do whatever you want at your reception

I told my mom it wasn't as popular as it used to be and she didn't believe me. I don't think we will end up doing them. I don't like being the centre of attention and feel like it would be awkward lol.

Thought I would share this. This is DH getting the garter. Fairly tame. His brother caught it and one of my bridesmaids got the bouquet (I hit the chandelier whoops). This is them putting it on. I wouldn't have done it if it hadn't been the two of them who caught the tosses. Plus she wanted the garter because it had a charm from our alma mater on it.

We're not doing either one. Most weddings I went to right out of college had the bouquet toss and a tame garter toss, but more and more of my friends are skipping it as we enter our late 20s and 30s and don't have as many single friends. I didn't like it even when I was younger. If you want to skip it, then skip it. It's awkward when there's hardly anybody who wants to participate.