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Bouquet/Garter Toss Alternatives?

Allison, on February 13, 2021 at 3:27 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 5 32
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My fiancé and I decided not to do bouquet/garter toss at our wedding because most of our friends are married already and we just don't like it. Anyone have any ideas for alternatives to this, or did you do anything in its place?

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    Here is an article with a list of alternatives! Otherwise, you could just skip the tosses altogether and not replace them with anything. My fiance and I plan to skip them, and not do anything in their place. This gives more time for open dancing. But, there are a lot of fun ideas out there if you did want to do something else instead! https://www.theknot.com/content/amphtml/alternatives-to-garter-and-bouquet-toss
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Rockstar July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    You can always play the shoe game instead.
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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
    Kaysey ·
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    My husband and I didn't like the idea of it either. We just skipped it and went on with our night, lol. We didn't fill it with anything.

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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    We skipped them too. We did an anniversary dance though, and I gave my toss bouquet to the longest married couple, which we knew would be his grandparents.
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  • Allison
    Devoted October 2022
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    Thats a really cute idea!

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  • Allison
    Devoted October 2022
    Allison ·
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    Thanks Lisa!

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Most who opt out of those don't replace them with anything and they aren't missed.

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    We skipped them and didn't replace with anything. I don't think anybody noticed, since both of these trends (especially the garter toss) are becoming more outdated.

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  • A
    Super September 2020
    Alli ·
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    We skipped and did not replace it. I don’t think anyone likes watching it anyways lol same with dollar dance 🤦🏻‍♀️
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  • A
    Super October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    We’re just skipping it so that everyone can have more time to mingle and dance! There’s no need to replace it with anything.
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  • B
    Super July 2017
    Becky ·
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    We just didn't do them at and didn't replace them. No one missed them (we had maybe 5 singles at our wedding).

    There was actually a venue we considered that when we talked to the owner (who acted as event coordinator as well), she was insistent on certain things - including the tosses. We didn't go with them for a number of reasons, but a big part of it was that she insisted that certain things happen/that we have certain things. (She said something about ushers taking people to their seats, I said we weren't do ushers, and she's like "that's how we do things here." Um, k but I was the bride and I didn't want them, so . . . )

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    We’re still doing it but have added a twist to it. The majority of our friends are married or in a committed relationship. We’re going to attach scratch tickets to the bouquet & garter.
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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    We skipped them entirely and just left dancing in place.

    I did give my sample bouquet to some friends, but didn't make a big moment out of it.

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  • Jessica
    Beginner June 2022
    Jessica ·
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    We're considering giving the "tossing" bouquet to the couple that has been together the longest (since we are doing an anniversary dance)

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  • J
    Savvy June 2021
    Jessica ·
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    We’re in the same situation. 90% of our friends/guests are married. Skipping the garter toss. I didn’t want to wear one and my fiancé could care less. I want to throw my bouquet though! I’m inviting all the women to the dance floor (married, engaged, singe, etc.). Whoever catches it will be gifted a bottle of wine and a gift card. They can use it for a date night or to spoil themselves!
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  • Jessica
    Devoted February 2021
    Jessica ·
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    I had a client do an “apron dance” they mailed out recipe cards with their invitations. At the reception the bride and groom danced with those who contributed recipes to their aprons. Kind of a twist on the dollar dance.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2021
    Katie ·
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    I've seen people do the shoe game or the anniversary dance I think that's what it's called. Or you could choose not to do anything at all.


    I'm doing the bouquet/garter toss but a little bit different. My brother wants to propose to his girlfriend and she has seen a video where the bride pretends like she is going to throw the bouquet but then turns around and gives the bouquet to the brothers girlfriend and he proposes. Thats what we are planning on doing.
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  • Danielle
    Just Said Yes February 2021
    Danielle ·
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    I am getting long stem roses and handed them out to the most important and influential women in my life with a little note attached to the stem
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2021
    Katie ·
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    Omg that is so adorable I love that idea
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  • Jaime
    Savvy May 2021
    Jaime ·
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    Maybe do a candy toss for the kids
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