Bouquet toss with prize?

This is a nice idea, but I don’t think the actual tossing of the garter is the unpleasant part of the tradition. It’s mostly the part where your spouse crawls up your dress in front of all of your friends and family while a cheesy R&B slow jam blasts through the speakers.

I think it would be fine as long as you make sure everyone knows it's for EVERYONE and not just the single ladies. We're handing my bouquet off to the longest married couple.

I agree though with PP, it's not the tossing, it's the crawling under the dress. My FH would be super uncomfortable and honestly, so would I. If you don't mind, it's up to you really.. you could always just slip it off at some point and hand it to him like at a table or before the reception if under the dress isn't your thing.

View Quoted Comment Lol, you’re so right. We’re definitely going to have to go over how he’ll get it off or if I’ll take it off so we don’t creep everyone out. I remember when we were feeling out the form for our dj and it asked if we wanted “the stripper song” played while he took it off. I was like wtf? How uncomfortable would that be for everyone including us!

View Quoted Comment Yes, I will definitely talk to our dj beforehand and make she knows to announce that everyone is invited up. I also like what you said about giving it to the longest married couple. I think that could be a fun sentimental way to do it too. I’ll have to suggest that to FH.

IMO I would just keep it the traditional way. I feel as if you are unnecessarily complicating things.

We're doing something similar. We're got a little treasure chest box that we're going to put 2 prizes in and we're going to attach a key to the bouquet and the garter and whoever catches each will get to open the box and get a prize. We also won't have a ton of single people there so we're going to open it up to everyone. I think it'll be more fun with not just single people put on the spotlight and also no worries of random guy putting a garter on random lady. I've always found that to be the most uncomfortable part.

I feel like most people probably wouldn't participate even if you announce that it's for everyone. You can certainly do it if you really want to, but i just really think it doesn't go over well anymore with people.

View Quoted Comment That’s sounds like such a fun idea! I agree that I think it’ll be more fun to have whoever wants to come up. Knowing my guests I’m sure a lot of them will enjoy being able to participate. Especially if there’s a prize after lol.

My friends gave open bar for the night to whoever caught the bouquet and the garter so prized are not unheard of!

I don’t know why so many people are against the bouquet toss, I think it’s so fun! I went to a wedding two saturdays ago and they had al the girls who weren’t married yet get on the dance floor and try to catch the bouquet. I ended up catching it and it was perfect since I’m next up in my friend group to get married. It might be awkward if it is just truly single people getting “singled” out but this way was lots of fun!

If we did this at our wedding it literally would be like 3 or 4 ppl playing it because most of our guests r either married or in relationship n their gf or bf will be there at the wedding with them. Basically be a waste n probably make them all feel embarrassed.

Our dj plays the shoe game it seems like fun.

View Quoted Comment I’ve always thought it was fun too! I know my guests wouldn’t be offended by it even if we did keep it to unmarried people. I think I’ll still open it up to everyone who wants to join in. It’ll be more fun with more people out there. Thank you!

That sounds fun, I’d participate. I only didn’t do a bouquet toss bc we had like 3 single ladies and none of whom would’ve wanted to be singled out as such 🤣 , but I love me some prizes!

But yeah, I’d jaustbhave the announcement be clear like, “all ladies, single or taken, who are interested in prizes!”

(we didn’t do garter as we find them uncomfortable; but minus the whole “head up your dress part” I’m not bothered by the simple actu of just throwing a garter!)

View Quoted Comment Right?! I think my guests will be stoked about a prize lol. And yeah, if we kept it to single people there’d be like three girls up there. I don’t know that the men will want to join in prize or not but I know the girls will. I’m not very creative so I’m thinking an Amazon gift card. Everyone I know lives off amazon lol, so it would get put to good use. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment I wanted to do the shoe game too! It looks like a lot of fun. But then when I saw how fast the five hours for the reception fills up I couldn’t find the time to fit it in. Also FH didn’t love the idea of it ☹️. We did something kind of similar to the shoe game at my shower and it was a lot of fun.

View Quoted Comment You’re probably somewhat right about that lol. I’m very good at stressing over unnecessary things.

Sounds like a great idea! I'd do it. If it helps, all the weddings I have been to never "singled out" single people! It was always unmarried people, cuz myself and FH caught the bouquet and garter at our friends wedding (we weren't engaged at the time). We have always seen it as if a couple catches both they're "next to get married" or if both are single, hey wth maybe they can get to know each other. We had to do the whole putting the garter on me, which was weird but at least it was him, he put on a big show lol. We will do the tosses, absent of the whole now put the garter on them.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, definitely want "the stripper song" played at your wedding!! NOT!! I would be pink from head to toe. I love the idea of giving to the longest married couple.

View Quoted Comment That does help! I always thought that’s how it was supposed to go. Not married, but in a relationship could still participate. But I guess different people get offended by different things 🤷🏼‍♀️ Most people I know are married so that’s why I would want to open it up. But we really think it would be a fun experience we wouldn’t want to miss out on. I’m glad there’s still people that want to do this 😊

View Quoted Comment Right?! I didn’t even know what “the stripper song” was lol. Then I heard it and I was like oh no. But to each their own! (probably not saying that right lol)