Bouquet and garter toss

Skipping both for us.

I think it depends on your age and audience. My brother and SIL are in their mid-20s and did both, as they have lots of single friends. My DH and I are older and most of our friends are already paired up. We skipped both and it was fine.

We're doing both, but he's not going under my dress in front of 150 people to get the garter. Now, that's what's really awkward to me.

We are skipping them, we do not have a lot of single guests over the age of 10! We are going to do the anniversary dance instead and I will have a nice flower bouquet made for the couple to take home.

We're skipping both. As a guest I've never really enjoyed them (at least as an adult), and I think they're awkward af. We're doing an anniversary dance instead.

There are nice alternatives out there! I've heard of doing an "anniversary dance" and the couple married the longest gets a bottle of wine with the garter wrapped around it. I've also heard of giving a rose to each single woman with a note attached saying you are praying that they find a lovely spouse if they are to get married someday. I think we'll be using those ideas I've heard because we really like them personally!

I actually hadn't planned on tossing my bouquet, but my lady friends asked me to do it, so we just kind of tossed it in there. This was after several drinks, of course. You know your guests though, so do what works for you!

Originally we/I was planning to do both. But FH was super uncomfortable with doing the garter (for a number of reasons), and eventually I gave in. I decided eventually to do away with the bouquet toss too, because I've always felt a little awkward doing that, and I didn't want to "force" any of our friends to do it.

We skipped both and neither were missed. The garter thing is an outdated and often gross tradition that i had zero interest in whatsoever. I wanted to keep my bouquet too so that was also a no for me, though I may have considered it if I didn't want to keep mine.

I like the anniversary dance idea and think that's cute if you still want to give away bouquet or garter.

However, this idea above about giving a rose to single ladies I do find a bit offensive. A few of my single friends would be very hurt by this to have been further 'singled out'. I also have several friends who have no current desire to get married whatsoever, so they wouldn't appreciate that. Marriage is not everyone's desire or end game. Also, how would you know who exactly is single? This goes along with the common plus one issue. They could be dating someone and just haven't made it 'fb official' or told their families. Anyways, just saying that I personally wouldn't appreciate the rose thing and think that goes a little too far.

We had it. It was so awkward and weird that we wished we didn't.

We are doing the bouquet. Unsure of garter. Nothing against it, just undecided.

We skipped both. No one missed them

We will be doing both

We aren't. It doesn't have any

meaning for us, and I don't want to waste that precious time.

Not

I am not having it. My FH didn't like when I told him we are not having the garter toss, but i really think it is awkward and wouldn't feel comfortable with it, so he just has to deal with it haha

Nope, not having either at my wedding.

Bouquet toss has become pretty standard here, I have only witnessed one garter toss (it was incredibly cringe-worthy to me, the soundtrack from "9.5 Weeks" was playing, bride and groom were alone on the dance-floor... along with several of the kids who swarmed around them to see what was going on because they had never seen anything like that before.... yeah *cringe).

I won't be doing either, because a. it is a borrowed tradition that I have no attachment to and b. because if I attempted to throw a bouquet behind my back, I would probably end up blinding someone at best, severely injuring at worst. Seriously, 0 aim.

If I have it my way and get red and white flowers (groom picks the bouquet here, aka FMIL), I plan on giving one of the red ones to each of my 4 nieces, who will all be flowergirls and are super excited about my bouquet -they would prefer me having one as big as myself apparently and they compromised on the size only when I said I would give them a flower each- and the rest I am giving to my sister, who will be my equivalent of MoH.

No tradition or hidden meaning behind it, me and her really like flowers and it will make me happy for her to have them. This will happen when the reception ends, between the two of us, won't be some special moment during it.

We skipped both and nobody missed them.

I have maybe two single friends left, so I plan to spare them that embarrassment. And the garter toss ... just eww.