Boudoir Sudden Mixed Feelings

I think it was an unfortunate thread - but if you are worried what your FH will think - run the idea by him see what he thinks about it

I think if you Google enough you can find any opinion on everything. Did you have any doubt before reading that? If you didn't, go ahead. I read things and get myself into a panic all the time for no reason.

There was an old WW Forum Post on this exact topic. The poster was surprised at her FH's negative reaction to the pics. I don't think it's necessary for women to do this.

I did boudoir photos, and FH has absolutely no idea, yet. And won't until I give him the book of pics. I am 100% certain he's going to looove them. It never crossed my mind that he'd be jealous of the photographer. (Like, what? Someone's got to take these professional photos, and it ain't gonna be you, sweetie)

If you didn't have reservations before, put it straight out of your mind.

I think it's smart to go with the female photographer! I've considered this as well. But if you're really concerned, maybe write him a note as a surprise to let him know you're doing it and see how he reacts!

FH does not own you. If you go with a female photographer, I don't see the problem. I personally wouldn't do a boudoir shoot because I'm uncomfortable with posing for photos (even when fully clothed) but if I decided to go for it and went with a female photographer, lord have mercy on FH if he thought that that was something I "needed to discuss with him first".

Literally, that would be wandering into broken engagement grounds.

I talked to mine about it because we have a joint bank account, and I wanted to let him know I was going to be spending a chunk of money... But especially if you have a female photographer ((which you should)), he shouldn't have any problems with it!!

It's a know-your-crowd situation, for sure. I love boudoir shoots and think that the empowering feeling it gives women and the selflessness of getting photographed in a vulnerable way for your FH/FW is really really cool.

Thanks for the kind words, ladies! I am having an off week with planning, not much to do until next month when alllll the final appointments starts, so I think I am just finding silly things to overthink and stress about, haha.

Double check with FH. This could go South fast.

FH would hate me doing this, but I know that, and am not doing it. You need to talk to your FH.

Oh lord, I wouldn't be with someone who would get jealous by pictures I got taken for him. Nobody has time for that.

Why am I not surprised that @Nancy wants you to get FH's permission lest "things go South fast"? In what way Nancy? FH will decide his FW is a whore and a slut for not checking with him first before posing in boudoir photos with a female photographer?

Who would want to be married to that anyways?

Are you planning on showing pink bits? My boudoir photos show way less than I have on display whenever we go to the beach. Though if you do want to show more, it's yours to show.

My guess is 99% of men can deal.

This is a gift for him. If you sext him photos all the time, I bet professional photos will be welcome.

The internet will also diagnose you with brain cancer for having a headache.

You do not need permission to have your photo taken by a FEMALE photographer or really ANY photographer for ANY reason. Do not create that type of dynamic in your relationship.

I'm doing one as a surprise for my FH too! Honestly if he would get mad about me taking pictures with a female professional photographer for him I would not be marrying him. OP don't sweat the article your FH will love it!

@delfinia - definitely no pink bits, haha. Planning on bridal, his favorite sports team, and his fraternity colors (even though we are way past college), which are incidentally his favorite..

@asta - I am having a female photographer because she has the best reviews and prices in our area and our male wedding photographer does not shoot boudoir. He is also a family friend and I would not feel comfortable.

@treeshade and @melissahh - you ladies totally put it into perspective with the WebMD haha I love it.

Thank you so much for all your encouragement ladies! I really think I'm just finding stuff to worry about. I just wasn't sure if I totally missed something. Definitely planning on moving forward with the shoot - I feel like it's half for me haha I can't wait to get all glammed up!

Since it's for him, it definitely makes sense to want to know what he thinks/feels about it. Getting him something he won't like is a waste of time and money, not to mention it would be disappointing for you. Theoretically, since you've decided to marry him, you know him pretty well. If your gut tells you he won't like it, then he probably won't. But, as pretty much everyone has pointed out, if you ask the internet, you're going to die within an hour, so... I wouldn't worry about it. My FH and I are both fairly conservative, but I am seriously considering doing a boudoir shoot.

@ Jenny: See the WW post several years ago on this very subject. How do you read "whore" or "slut" into this? Some men just don't want pics of their wives in this setting. What does this have to do with the gender of the photographer? Get permission from the husband? WHAT?? How did you come to these conclusions after reading my post? Where did you get your ideas from???