Both parents names on invitation?

We're planning to use "together with their families".

We used both sets even though FH's parents aren't helping at all. I just feel like it's a sign of respect.

We are also using "together with our families"

Both of our parents are paying for the wedding and we're doing "together with their families".

We chose to do this because it's my mom and her fiancé paying on my side for my dad isn't contributing. I also didn't want to calculate who was paying more between the two families as to whomever pays most is mentioned first.

I just felt like it was too big much and I didn't want to be rude to my dad either and leave him off of it with all the other parents on it.

This is why we're taking the easiest route haha.

We are doing "together with their families."

I did ask my parents first, since they are the ones paying and my fiance's parents aren't contributing (which is totally fine, we would never dream of asking). I wanted to respect my parents' wishes, but they were gracious and said they didn't need to be listed as hosts -- that was never the point for them.

Etiquette/custom/tradition dictate that you only put your parents' names since they are the ones hosting the event.

I'm going to go against the grain here. I think it's a slap in the face to your parents to take the approaches listed above (do "together with our families" or list FH's parents names too) if your parents contributed a significant amount. If you ask like @MGB did and your parents are fine with it, go for it! I just know that this would really upset my parents.

ETA: If your mom contributed a bit but you guys are paying the bulk, "together with their families" would be fine.

We're also doing "together with their families" - I wanted to go more traditional, but FH thought his parents would be disappointed if it looked like one set of parents was contributing and not the other. Both sets are giving various levels of assistance, but we are also paying for parts ourselves too.

My parents were pretty generous, but were also very kind and understanding that we needed to make both sides of my future family happy at the same time.

We are paying ourselves but chose to honor our parents and put both names

My mom is paying so she's on the invite. His parents are not

I just asked my mom, she likes having her name on there and suggested putting both parents names but i don't know, my mom is investing a lot into this wedding and I think it would be nice if it were just her name, especially since she is the only one contributing. I really don't want to piss of FH family, but I also don't want her generosity to go unnoticed or whatever else, since it IS her hosting essentially

That makes me feel like such a jerk. I don't want to start my marriage with my in laws thinking I'm an ass but I also want it to be special for my mom

My parents are hosting and will be on the invitation, his parents will not be

I was only going to put my parents names since they were the only ones contributing, but when my FH's mother found out, she literally got her check book out the next day. To be fair, its the first wedding on his side of the family (he's the oldest cousin) and his mom is from Colombia, and his parents got married there and there was no formal invitation.

It wasn't our intention to get her to contribute, but she asked me why it was only my parents on the invitation when I was looking at the proof, and my FH and I (yes he was there, and agreed with just my parents on the invitation at first) explained to her that etiquette is to only put the hosts, or people contributing to the wedding on the initiation.

My fiancé and I are also paying for a portion of the wedding, but we decided to do. "Mr. and Mrs _______ and Mr. and Mrs. ____________ request the honor of your presence at the marriage of ___________ and _________.

We were going to do together with their families, but thought that putting our parents names would help with recognition for our distant family members and our parents "guests". (big, Catholic Italian families).

I understand how one family could get upset because they're not on the invitation when the other family is, however, names go on the invitation for a reason. If your parents weren't contributing you wouldn't put their names on the invitations either. If his parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner, put their names on that invitation!

We are using "Together with their families"

We put

John and Jane Smith, together with Bob and Sally Jones to celebrate the marriage of their children Judy Laura and Howard Matthew (all fake names here)

I understand where you're coming from with wanting to honor your mom in that way. Just put her name first like

"Mrs. Blankety Blank requests the honor of your presence at the ceremony of her daughter Jane Janey Blank to John Johnny Black son of Mr. and Mrs. Johnson Black".

This way it's still representing the fact that your mother is one that has contributed to the event, but his parents names are on there representing their son. I feel like this should still honor your mother but not piss off FIL's lol.

I am torn about this too. My parents (graciously) set up a wedding fund for me when I was younger so they are paying entirely for our wedding. FH and I are paying for our rings and honeymoon of course, but since the money was already there and my parents have been contributing for years to it.... I feel like it would be disrespectful to use "together with our families." I don't want to just ignore his parents though, but idk. His mom offered to pay for the RD a while back, but her and FH aren't on good terms right now so we are continuing as if she never offered. I think we will end up going the traditional route and just using my parents names.

Oooo @Cassie has an amazing idea.