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Briana, on May 25, 2016 at 3:23 PM Posted in Planning 0 26

So my mom insists both my and her are walking me down the isle. She had it done this way in her wedding and insists that is how I'm doing it as well. Has anybody seen this before or even done it? I don't have a problem with it, I'm just very traditional with the ceremony since my whole family is Catholic and every Catholic wedding I've been to is strictly traditional.

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Latest activity by melanie, on May 26, 2016 at 5:47 AM
  • Hollyberry
    VIP October 2016
    Hollyberry ·
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    I am going back and forth on this. I thin kit is a tradition in some families. As of now, just my dad will be walking me, but I am trying to gain the courage to tell him I'd like my mom to too. Some people will say it is a sexist tradition anyway, so do what you want. For me, it's more about the tradition. More about my parents helping support me on this journey rather than "giving me away".

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  • Private User
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    Both my parents walked down the aisle with me. No one "gave me away." Walking with both parents is the norm, in my family/social circle. (pretty much all Protestant/Catholic)

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  • Jennifer
    Expert July 2016
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    My sister and my aunt had both walk them down. It looked nice. Just make sure the aisle is wide enough for 3 people and your dress to get down. Our church has a very wide aisle, but a lot don't.

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  • TMNT Bride
    Super October 2016
    TMNT Bride ·
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    If you don't have a problem with it, I say go for it. I strictly want my dad to walk me down the aisle so I'm having my mom and my FMIL walk in first (before groom or anyone) and they will be pouring two colors of sand into our unity shadowbox to symbolize the joining of families. My FH and I will then pour two different colors of sand on top during the unity ceremony to symbolize our union. I think it's a nice way to get my mother involved without having her walk me down the aisle.

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  • LadyMonk
    Master September 2014
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    Both my parents walked me down the "aisle". Both of my husband's parents also walked him. We didn't have have a "giving away". It worked really nicely, and I loved it. Just make sure the aisle is wide enough to have 3 people comfortably walk (especially if you have a ball gown, or even A-line).

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  • Teaowl
    Super October 2016
    Teaowl ·
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    It's traditional in some families for both parents to escort the bride. I think it depends more on what you want for your wedding and what you're willing to compromise on.

    Personally, I haven't decided yet what I'm doing.

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  • Dreamer
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    Dreamer ·
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    Both my parents walked with me, too.

    BTW, I cantored/soloed at my first wedding almost 14 years ago. It was in a Catholic church and it was a full mass. Both parents walked with their daughter/the bride.

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  • Chrissy
    Master September 2016
    Chrissy ·
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    *aisle

    No one is giving me away. I'm a grown ass woman and am and will remain no one's property.

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  • JessBaran
    Devoted March 2016
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    I am closer with my mom than I am my dad, so I had both of them walk me down! It made for some beautiful pictures and great memories =)

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  • beautyofdreams
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    My mother and father will be walking me down the aisle. I believe in Jewish weddings its traditional to have both mother and father. For me, my parents were never together. I lived the majority of the time with my mom but I am very close to my father. It was important to both them that they get to walk me down. I couldn't say no to one and yes to the other.

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  • MangoSong
    Savvy March 2017
    MangoSong ·
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    I'm going to have both parents walk me down. Both my parents raised me, I think it's important both get to walk me down. FWIW, FI is having his dad and aunt walk him down.

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  • Celia Milton
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    I see both parents walk brides and grooms down all the time, but I don't use "giving away" language.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
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    Both my parents walked me down the aisle. I have a wonderful, close relationship with both of them, so I thought it was an appropriate way to honor them both. When our officiant said "Who gives the bride in marriage?" My parents said "We do". My dad lifted my blusher and then I kissed him, then my mom.

    I think traditionally both parents escort the bride (and groom) in Jewish weddings, but my VERY Catholic friend had both of her parents walk her down the aisle at her wedding, so it really doesn't matter!




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  • Becoming a Mrs
    Master July 2016
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    Both mine are. I knew it should be my mom but didn't want to take that away from my dad either.

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  • M
    Devoted September 2016
    Maggie ·
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    I am doing that, since it is a Jewish tradition. Plus, they both have raised me and mean the world to me, so I feel they should both walk me down the isle. That's just me though.

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  • Spiff
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    Spiff ·
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    My mom passed away not to long ago and I never knew my father. so I asked both of my sisters to walk me down the aisle Smiley smile

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
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    I'm having both walk me down the aisle. I will tell the officiant that they don't need to say "who gives the bride away". Too antiquated for me. They'll just kiss me and go sit down lol.

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  • NativeBride
    Super October 2016
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    I've seen both give someone away. Just make sure the walkway is wider. My cousin did it and it was a super squished walk down the aisle.

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  • Amanda
    Dedicated August 2016
    Amanda ·
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    This happens to be traditional at Jewish weddings, and my Catholic in laws-to-be are excited to do it this way too.

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  • Loganna
    Super October 2016
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    I'm having a Catholic wedding, and my church doesn't require both parents to walk with me, but they highly recommend it. I'm not sure what I want to do... I'm considering it, but I'm worried that the aisle will be too small for both of them plus my giant skirt. Haha.

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