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Booting a bridesmaid

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Jacqueline, on April 2, 2018 at 11:18 PM

So I really didn’t want to do it but I am going to have to tell one of my girls she is no longer part of my day. After several go arounds with bridesmaid dresses, hair, makeup I gave her an out. We’ve been friends for about 7 years, through the ups and downs.... so after 3 or my 4 ladies picking the same dress she thought it would be ok to buy what she wanted after I sent several group messages about which dress to get. I think the dress is beautiful and could be used again. My hope was to have the girls in same length same material same color, but the 3 girls who showed up on bridesmaid dress day picked the same dress. So I’ll skip to today, my future sister in law reached out to uncooperative bm and she started trash talking me and how I am not listening to her and I picked this dress even though the consultant at David’s told her it wasn’t flattering and that no1 has ever bought the dress. That was just the start she then proceeded to say that she loves me but doesn’t find it fair that I’ve asked them to buy dresses that are 110 on sale and then to buy 25 shoes when she found cheaper dresses. Calling out for help what do I do? How do I tell someone who I thought would be supportive that they are out of the wedding party?

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Stephanie · on April 4, 2018 at 9:16 AM
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This is so amazing to me. I really don't understand how people are like this. I mean budget is VERY real for many people. So if she couldn't swing it, she couldn't swing it or maybe she just didn't want to spend the money on a dress she hated and would only ever wear once. It is blowing money she probably doesn't have, that would be kind of irresponsible if you asked me. You have two options buy the dress for her, which then she really has no room to complain, OR let her wear the dress she already bought. If my bridesmaids couldn't afford the dress (they can pick their own from Azazie) , I'd still want them standing with me, even if they were in a $2 dress from goodwill. My friends are not props, and they can do whatever works for them.
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stbmrs2019 · on April 4, 2018 at 10:26 AM
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I'd still want them standing with me, even if they were in a $2 dress from goodwill.
My dress for my BBF's wedding was legit a $3 dress from Goodwill. She had no issue with it as she told us blue and at least knee length. I plan on giving my girls the fabric swatches of the colors I have chosen and allow them to find their dress in that color, no matter where they get it.
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