booking a venue before you get engaged.

What the fuck is wrong with this broad? Tell her she is psycho and needs to be engaged before they book anything.

I think you are a troll.

At least she told her boyfriend. remember the friends episode when Monica booked a venue behind chandler's back without being engaged? I think it was the trigger that led to the proposal.

anyway, how does the boyfriend feel about it? maybe talk to him first. If he is okay with it, then most likely he is planning a proposal.

I would never financially commit to booking a venue without a ring on my finger, but I do believe that when you know you know. my family and my husband's both have a history of short courtships and engagements. We knew we were meant for each other within 2 weeks. That's definitely not for everyone, but it is possible.

I also think you're a troll

Sometimes sadly, there's nothing you can do other than ask once or twice, "Are you really sure?" If you push it too hard it might get in the way of your friendship. But since she's talking to her BF I agree it's possible they've talked about marriage already and that they are planning officially.

Its none of your fucking business. stop calling someone your friend then judging them behind their back to a forum full of strangers.

I was probably sorta a lot like this friend of yours (I am 34 if that matters)...I met my FH last summer and he kept talking about wanting to have babies...and in January (after we had moved in together in Oct) I did a sit down (which I almost consider the moment we really got "engaged") and said if you want babies soon then you better plan on marrying me because I don't want a baby before marriage and I am getting old (where I live I am considered high risk and now have to drive 2 hours to have a baby...for the closest bigger hospital). He said yeah...we should get married. I said be serious...this is serious. He said ok...lets get married. I said if your for reals I am going to start planning. So in Feb I went and looked at venues...just for ideas. In March we booked (money down makes it official right?) and and after our food tasting at the end of March he proposed officially on the walkway of our venue next to the beautiful glittering golden lamps along the path.

Someone could have said well Northern has always talked about getting married and has planned weddings since she was a kid...so this is just silly but thankfully my friends knew me well enough to know this situation as for real and were very kind and supportive. Now if I had been dating a crappy guy and was all "engaged" then maybe it would have been good for them to say something. That is up to you as the person that knows her to decide.

I would be more concerned that she's dropping a lot of money on something that may not even be real yet

Def. a troll!

Wow... there are some seriously nasty people on here. I love my friend to death and want nothing but the best for her. I want to talk to her in person - I wanted an objective response in case someone was seeing something I wasnt - I didn't want to talk to our mutual friends because I'm the only one that knows...geesh people. So incredibly rude it's unbelievable. I feel sorry for everyone that commented something nasty and thank and appreciate anyone elses responses.

This is tame Monica.....leave now if you can't handle it.....

Change your image.

Keep in mind that when you post things like this and you provide the reader with only the information YOU want them to know, not the entire story, people are going to interpret it the way they see fit. I responded negatively because I think this post is a joke and a troll. If I were this girls boyfriend and we had been dating 6 months and she told me she booked a wedding venue/date/etc and I hadn't even asked her to marry me I'd turn around and run away as quickly as possible. Like Erin said, maybe they are talking about marriage and she just hasn't told you, so here you are making your friend look like some weirdo.

Don't feel sorry for me. i have a spine and if i feel something is wrong, i speak up. i also love my friends and allow them to make their own life choices and support them int he good, bad and even the questionable.

People tend to call trolls especially when you don't have a user pic, and for a good reason (not personal). There are a bunch of real trolls that never have pics, so sometimes when a story seems a bit "out there" or different sometimes people call troll.

For the most part everybody on here is very helpful. BUT this is very tame compared to the heated discussions I've seen so if you easily get hurt...run away!

There have been a bunch of trolls named Monica lately. I'm pretty sure you're one of them.

@ Andi, her question was HOW to talk to her friend... There's a good way to have a spine and then there are just jackasses.

This doesn't sound accurate because first off, you need a contract with both (hers and bfs) signatures along with the deposit in order to book the venue. Are you sure she wasn't just browsing out of curiosity? Or maybe they actually are planning something.

@Andrea - Not always, only I signed our venue contract.

I was the only one who signed our venue contract as well.