BM help!!! when your bridesmaid changes their mind!!

Not knowing your relationship with these two girls, I would explain to the first one that it's too late - since she backed out you had to find a replacement soon and it wouldn't be fair to the new girl.

I definitely wouldn't tell the new BM who stood up and took her place never mind. Honestly I'd tell the previous BM that you've already made arrangements and she could help with something else. Or if 3 BMs is okay I'd let them all be in the wedding. I just would not kick out the new girl that would be a little rude

Ooo that's a pickle. Is there a way to have three bridesmaids? If not, I would explain to her that you've already asked another friend to be a bridesmaid. I don't think it would be appropriate to go to the new girl and say "oh sorry you can't actually be a bridesmaid".

Thats my thinking too! Thanks girls just needed a little reassurance!

I completely agree with you May. We are trying to go for 3 but finding hard to find another groomsmen to make it even!

Have 3! I have 7 maids and he has 5 men. No need to be even, I think being uneven with a smaller number would be even easier

I agree with Britterrss, I don't think the sides have to be even. If that is important to you, does FH have anyone else he can ask? If not, I think you may need to let her know that it is too late and maybe find a different role for her [reader etc.]

I wouldn't take her back at this point, or try to find another groomsmen. Being a wedding attendant can be expensive sometimes. If there are other expenses that come up will she drop out again? I agree with giving her another role.

Normally I'd say just have 3 no biggie on uneven BP, but this BM/BFF may end up changing her mind a third time & dropping out. Keep the new BM & let your close friend know that you wanted to respect her & not force her in to anything so you asked another girl & can't really ask that girl to step down. Tell the ex-BM she can still be as involved as she wants & help out etc & you still want some photos with her but maybe this is just easier.

I like Britterss' comment. I've actually got 9 girls and FH has 7 boys (and we might still be counting LOL!). They don't have to be even. If any of my girls actually asked ME to be a part of my special day, I would be SO honored! ;-D

Thanks for the posts. I did say to her I would hate to see her have to pay for a dress and have to decide between food or my dress. I would never forgive myself. She is happy with helping out with other things. Cause to be honest I would hate for her later on to change her mind again!!! Thats less stress I can avoid later! Thanks for the ideas on the uneven bridal party. I'll for sure consider it.