BM dress too revealing, not sure what to do

This is the thing that brothers me most BM who do what they want after the bride said something else.

I would tell her that this is too sexy for your wedding and she can either. A. pay to have the slit sewn and buy a jacket to wear to cover her boobies. or B. since there is no return policy she can buy a new dress... and that she shouldn't have bought it after you said you really didnt like it her your wedding.

Sorry you have to go through this!

That is one sexy dress but I agree with you its a little too revealing for a wedding.. More like a going out dress. Is it anyway possible to help them find another dress?

It sucks that they didn't bother to listen to what you wanted, especially if you told them that you didn't find it appropriate for the bridal party. Maybe they were thinking that they could wear it again sometime? You could always sew on spaghetti straps or even like a black tulle cap sleeve ( that can be removed later) and sew the slit down to the knee (that can also be undone later if wanted) or maybe even add lace inside where the slit is cut so that it is still somewhat see through but not totally open.

I would have probably said, Wow, nice dress. Where are you planning to wear that? Now, let's finish buying your bridesmaid dress.

Super snarky: since you obviously had no intention of honoring my wishes as the bride, I obviously chose the wrong person for the job. Thank you for your time. :p

Exchange it or sew it to the knee and put a shrug or jacket on it.

Ask the shop to stitch up the slit and sew some cap sleeves on or ask her to buy a jacket for it? That sucks :-(

I would tell her to buy a new dress... that is extremely sexy for a wedding. Hope you get this worked out good luck to you!!

I personally dont see any problem with it. Better to show a little leg than some BM who wear the short dresses that almost show vag when they sit down... I think it's got that classy sex appeal, like I said for me nothing wrong with it.

But for your wedding, if you feel it's not appropriate, stand your ground. Tell her, either she finds a new dress that is specific to what you asked, or she can sit at your wedding as a GUEST, not part of the WP.

Yowza! That is a sexy BM dress. What about trying a different bra to help combat the cleavage?

What bothers me is that she is my brother's wife, who is 19 years old and is always covered up. She doesn't even wear short dresses in the summer because she doesn't like her legs, and when she does she always wears leggings or tights underneath. Not only that but my sister had told her she was going to buy her her dress , because my brother is only working a part time minimum wage paying job and can't really afford much right now. I asked my sister why she bought the dress if I had said it wasn't appropriate and her response was "well I told her I would buy her the dress she wanted, and thats the one she wanted." And the dress was almost $300!!!

We bought the dress (or should I say my sister bought the dress) in downtown LA's fashion district, which has crazy policies and don't fix jack. So any alterations or additions for the dress will have to come out of someone besides her pocket, most likely mine

Shelley, I work in DTLA and shop down there occasionally and when I do, I make sure I really want what I am buying because I know I won't be able to return it.

My answer is not going to be a popular, but I would explain to her that the dress is inappropriate, and knowing this, she purchased it. I would ask her to step down. If she chooses to wear it to the wedding, fine. But she cannot be a part of the BP if she is not going to cooperate and adhere to a simple request.

Lol Annie!

Ugh this is so annoying! I personally don't like the dress (the slit looks weird). I would see if the slit could be sewed shut a bit if possible.

ETA: sorry just read about the alterations and your sister paying.. wow that is annoying... what do the other BM dresses look like?

Guess they thought if they bought it while you werent around they could get away with it. Very inconsiderate. Cap sleeves are a good way to go. And maybe if the dress is too long, they can cut some at the bottom and use the material to cover some of the boobs. Wish you the best!!!

Since she bought it already and you like it, have them wear a pashima for the ceremony, and yes, have the slit sewn a little for less leg. They should wear a basic pump - do not allow them to wear those vegas tacky high heels. They can take off the pashima for the ceremony. I agree, your sis is a little selfish here, but if the other girls agree, then just leave it be. They will look nice for the photos, I'm sure and won't outshine you.

Have her sew the open seam all the way down in the front. You can either use a pashmina in a different color that picks up the color theme of your weddong, or buy yard of fabric and have a shrug made. Too bad che didn't have you see the dress prior to the purchase for approval.

If sewing up the slit us expensive maybe she can wear a knee length slip under it just for the ceremony, either a black one or one of your wedding colors for a little pop.

@forevermylove- my cousin (BM) ended up telling her that she should have waited to buy the dress. Apparently the sales lady told her that the dress was $400+ and she was giving her a discount but she had to make a decision right there because if she walked out and came back she would not be able to give her the same price. The dress was purchased at the second store we looked at, and we were on a street with about 20 dress shops!

@ Weddy, no I am not getting married in a church but I will be having a religious ceremony. My grandparents and parents find it disrespectful to be too exposed so I took them into consideration when picking a dress.

@BunBuns- the other girls didn't find a dress. My cousin (BM) just had a baby and couldn't find anything that would cover her huge tatas. And she wasn't feeling very comfortable in the dresses we found. My other BM is very thin and also had a problem finding something that she liked and fit. My sister (MOH) did get her dress and I will post a picture of it below

Wow this stinks,I'm sorry you have to go threw added stress.Sounds like you have to lay down the law,that this is your day not there's.They need to be respectfull of your feelings.Not to say you don't wan't them to be happy with the dress,but it's youd day,no one should out shine the bride,all eyes should be on you.Good luck.