Blended 3.0

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Agreed. If they claim each other as father and daughter, blood doesn't matter. She should be included.

I don't think she's not wanting to include her in the day/the ceremony in general. She was specifically asking about the sand ceremony. Since the daughter is an adult, I think she is fine to say, no, I'd rather not include her in the sand ceremony. Knowing she will be included elsewhere in the day of/their lives together

We have a blended family also. I have 2 girls from a previous marriage and he has a step daughter from a previous marriage (who is not his biologically, but he raised her as his own for 7 years. She is an adult now). We are raising my 2 girls together and he definitely sees all three girls as his own.

I feel that if he raised her as one of his own, biology has nothing to do with it. She is still his baby girl. I would definitely include her

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I am on board with this!

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Why wouldn’t you want to include her? That’s his daughter and the only father she knows

Just gonna say if you marry someone you need to be accepting of all the family he brings along. You cant just say his past makes you uncomfortable and so a woman he thinks of and loves as his daughter isnt as much a part of your family because you say so. That's very one sided and it is his wedding too. That's just my opinion. Not trying to come off rude. I just know how it can feel to be rejected by the new wife and it causes a lot of uneasiness and hurt for a long time after. Not really worth you ignoring a want of his that will last 20 minutes max if you want your marriage to last a lifetime. You have to consider everyone's feelings. Not just your own. That's what marriage is all about.

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Then include her. I think it would be beyond hurtful if she wasn't included. My DH considers my son to be his as well and he's not a biological father. Biology isn't the only thing that makes someone a parent.