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Bitter Bridesmaid

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Janae, on October 9, 2015 at 12:30 PM

Ok so a little background- I have two best friends (BF#1 I have known almost my whole life) (BF#2 I have known for about 18 years). BF#1 & BF#2 are also friends (we all went to HS together) BF#1 has two boys and a busy schedule, we talk once a week. BF#2 is the friend I text everyday and talk to...

Ok so a little background- I have two best friends (BF#1 I have known almost my whole life) (BF#2 I have known for about 18 years). BF#1 & BF#2 are also friends (we all went to HS together)

BF#1 has two boys and a busy schedule, we talk once a week.

BF#2 is the friend I text everyday and talk to more.

I knew when I got engaged that I was going to ask BF#1 to be my MOH. No questions asked, shes more like a sister to me. Well the time came and when I told BF#2 that BF#1 was my MOH, she didn't take it very well. We finally got passed it (or so I thought) and now only 4 months to the wedding, BF#2 is being very bitter, towards the MOH & the other BM's, and ME! When I say "bitter" I mean: No interest in wedding, no interest in bridal shower, and to top it all off she is telling me things that the MOH is doing for my bridal shower that she doesnt like. ISNT THIS AWFUL OF HER? I mean I have tried not to let her ruin this for me, but her attitude is really bugging me....

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Reggie · on October 9, 2015 at 1:06 PM
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Honestly, in this situation I would have made them both MOH. I can understand her being hurt if you talk to her everyday and she didn't get that honor. It's your wedding and your choice but I'm just saying that in total honesty if I were in her shoes I would likely feel hurt and probably pretty awkward. It could be hard to be around the other friends feeling like you had been publicly named less important (esp when she may see you are her BFF).
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Janae · on October 9, 2015 at 1:14 PM
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I understand Reggie, and I tried to comfort her when it all first happened. I just personally don't like the whole 2 MOHs. Just my preference. She knows that BF#1 has been my BF for 28 years, her son is my godson which means alot to the both of us. I honestly just assumed she knew I was asking BF#1 and not her. My intention was never to make her feel left out.
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Janae · on October 9, 2015 at 1:16 PM
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And its too late at this point even if I decided I wanted to do that. So now I just want to know how to start moving on from this. How to help her move on. Definitely a sticky situation and I guess no right answer. Just feeling very thrown off by all this. Its stress I didnt need on top of the normal wedding planning stress.
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OG Kathryn · on October 9, 2015 at 1:18 PM
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Shes being a brat Janae. I'd sit down wiht her and discuss your feelings and talk about hers. If she cant straighten up, give her the option to come as a guest. But tell her she is stressing you out.
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Janae · on October 9, 2015 at 1:22 PM
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Thanks Kathryn I think thats what I am going to do. But the ball in her court, I cant take much more of it!

Thanks ladies! I appreciate all the advice!
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