Big Wedding vs. Small Wedding

Go with your gut. And your pocketbook. If you can comfortably afford 80 people, and it is what you want to do, then do it. If you can’t, or don’t want to, there is no requirement to do so.

Don't have a big wedding to make someone else happy. If you want small and can only afford small . . Go with small. You could consider having just parents and siblings there if you still want some family rather than a full elopement. It could have a more intimate feel and you'd get to spend more time with each person there than if you had a larger crowd.

If you and your FS do want a bigger wedding, price everything out to make sure you can afford it before committing to anything. This might mean pushing back the date. Make sure you're both on the same page and are comfortable with spending that amount of money. Ultimately you just have to choose what works best for you, and there is nothing wrong with either option as long as you and your FS are happy and you can afford it to host it properly.

Don't have a big wedding to make others happy. Have the wedding you and your fiancé can afford if that means 50 people or less that's what you do. You're not going to be able to invite evjust invite those you truly want their to celebrate with you.

Do what is going to make you happy and what you can afford. Small, intimate weddings with your closest loved ones are great. You can focus on them and your FH. It’s less money and less stress.

We did a smaller wedding (55 guests) where 35 were family and the remaining were our close friends. It’s was great being able to celebrate and enjoy the time with the people who were dearest to us. Had a few friends get married within a year of all, all with big weddings (150+). I can definitely say each couple was way more stressed with planning then we were.

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I second this. its your day, and about what you can afford. dont do anything you dont want to do or you will end up with regrets. you want to look back on this day and love it.

Maybe do a ceremony with your closest family and a few friends and then a casual BBQ or get together after for everyone to celebrate your marriage

We were planning a big wedding (250 people) because FH was insistent on it even though I wanted to elope. We booked most of our vendors but I was constantly stressed with planning and we were constantly arguing with each other. I put together a budget to show him how much we would probably end up spending by the time it was all said and done and he decided the money, my stress, and the arguments weren't worth it so we cancelled that wedding and now we're doing something intimate with parents, grandparents, siblings, and the people that were going to be in our wedding party (38 people including us). We lost some money from the deposits for the original wedding but we both agree that it was worth it because we're both so much happier. My mom is throwing us a party in my hometown for my family and friends back there to celebrate with us and we're going to do a bbq here for our friends. We'll still be able to celebrate with everyone in some way which is what was most important to FH. Don't feel pressured into doing something you don't want to do or the whole process will be miserable.

We are so glad we went with a smaller wedding. We had the people we loved there and to use that's all that mattered.

Just go with how you imagine yourself on your wedding day! It is different for everyone! I imagine all of my immediate family being with me and then our close friends and that's what makes me happy and that's what I'm willing to spend We are having maybe 75-100 people, but the number doesn't really matter to me as long as the people I want there are there to watch me and FH start our life together.

I also pictured FH and I eloping on the top of a mountain or something, but I know I would miss our families! But that is just me

We had a vet small wedding with just 4 guests and it was perfect for us.