Big Wedding or Small?

So initially i always thought i wanted something smaller like 100 people but when we made our guest lists it turned into 250 people. we ended up having the large wedding and to be honest i'm half and half about it. so on one hand it's AMAZING that all these people come out to support you but on the other... you don't get to spend that much time with each of them that day so having something small does allow you more time with everyone and is just overall less overwhelming

We originally started out with planning a 100 person wedding, which for me is big, and it became too stressful and I was fighting with my mom every day because she doesn't listen to me and was basically planning whatever she wanted regardless of my input, so FH and I decided to do a micro-wedding with just 18 guests and a backyard bbq instead. I'm getting married on Friday and don't have friends or family in our state but lots back home, so at the moment, I'm feeling sad to not get all of the bridal showers, bachelorette party, or have all of my friends and family there with me. Just something for you to think about. I don't regret doing the microwedding because it's exactly what we want (private ceremony at the top of a mountain where his mom's ashes are scattered), I am just sad that I only get to do this once and I don't get to share it with my 37 best friends. Only my most longest and closest bff that I've known for 26 years is invited and her husband is officiating. Plus, we didn't want to wait until next year to get married, we have been together almost 5 years and are ready now and I'm getting up there in maternity age, and didn't want to wait to start trying for a family.

FH started feeling bad about not inviting anyone on his side, he just has his sister and her husband, and one cousin coming, so he told his family he would go "home" to TX and have a party (a bbq in his sister's backyard) there with everyone next year, and I totally want one too, but mine would have to wait because we aren't able to travel to both TX and VA

Well first we was going to have our wedding in 2020 but money issue at the moment so it had to be pushed back to 2021 so we can save. We are probably going to spend more on the wedding than honeymoon but we also are just going to take a small honeymoon after the wedding then later once we have enough money to have a bigger trip

I’ve gone back and forth on this for a while because I was so conflicted. We are having a large wedding in terms of spending rather than guest count (under 150). The way I see it that we have the rest of our lives to travel together and go on romantic getaways but only one shot at gathering friends and family for a happy occasion: our wedding day. We’re still going on a honeymoon to the Caribbean but it’s going to be significantly cheaper than our wedding and I’m okay with that. 😁

You can still have a big wedding but try to do some things diy, find family friends or mutual friends to do food/cake/pics. Reduce the cost with your connections. Buy products when they go on sale for out of season sales. Since it will be in 2021 there is time to purchase decorations or other things you need for less money. Cut cost so that way the wedding is still big and amazing but majority of the budget will go to honeymoon. A lavish, romantic, memorable trip will make all the planning and waiting pay off.

We are having a small wedding, only 72 people invited total. We wanted to have a more intimate wedding and are taking a two week honeymoon.