I’m just so overwhelmed so this will be a long one. Sooo my vow renewal is Friday and so much is falling apart with people I love. My best friend/MOH is having financial issues, and she is the only one standing by my side (wasn’t going to do a bridal party at all bc of burdening my guests with tasks but she insisted I could count on her). She also is having childcare issues (21+ event) and she’s breastfeeding so she can’t detach. Won’t leave baby with dad in her hometown 3 hours away for selfish reasons. She is blaming me for not allowing kids to come, yet she still has the financial piece to worry about. She couldn’t afford to get a dress either so she’s wearing a hand me down from another event, totally fine but I wasted a lot of time approving dresses and setting up for her to get her makeup done. She can’t come to the makeup trial bc of her baby situation and I’m not sure what to tell her but I really don’t wanna be a burden to her by asking her to be there for me.
My favorite cousin from 12+ hours away is traveling alone (I initially gave her two “plus ones” bc she doesn’t drive and venue is far from my hometown where our family lives). She didn’t disclose that she wasn’t secure financially to come and keep her hotel that she reserved until today, and just booked an almost $500 flight to stay from Thurs-Sun a few days ago. I found her a cheaper flight but she waited til literally a week before the event to book... Now she’s blaming me because she can’t stay with my in laws (whom have never met her) and she doesn’t have money to stay in the hotel. She could stay with family, but I won’t be there and she isn’t close with them. Yet she doesn’t want me to pay for her hotel and now doesn’t want to come or stay on our pull out couch in our hotel suite bc she feels like she’s ruining my day and invading my privacy.
Also, other family members are inviting themselves after all final counts are in and all monies are paid... I will have security but I just don’t get it how ppl could be so insensitive of my wishes for having a 21+, RSVP only event.
Is it normal for all this to hit the fan the week of the event? I’m just baffled, and don’t wanna sound insensitive because they’ve already put money towards coming, but don’t have money to follow thru. Plz help! Any advice is welcomed.