Best way to hint for cash for gifts?

I didn't set up a registry so most of our guests just gave us money.

I didn't regisiter anywhere and didn't ask for gifts, we don't need anything and I don't go advertising we could use money, I am probably one of the few people who don't expect gifts. I just want to celebrate with my FH and Family. If people do ask if we need anything all i say is a card is just fine. And i agree, don't ask for money or do a wishing well, it super tacky!

The whole "cutesy poem" trend is one of the many reasons I think pinterest needs to die a long, slow death.

Don't register (or, probably a better idea, make a very small registry with only a few essentials, just in case some people aren't comfortable giving money). Make sure your close family knows to tell anyone who asks that you're saving up for X, Y, or Z.

I will NEVER understand the logic of registering for gift cards, or creating a honeyfund, or other registry that asks for cash. I'm adding the "wishing well" to that list too. People know how to put money or a check into a card and bring it to the wedding or mail it to you. It's not exactly a mystery that people like cash.

My FH and I are in the same boat! We are not putting our registry on our invitations so people get the hint. FH's sister did this, and it worked. I am having a small registry for my bridal shower and that's it.

We had registries that were small....and a lot of people did not get the hint lol. They instead just bought us random things (which was not bad) but wasn't really what we were striving for. I can't tell you how many pottery bowls I got (which I did like but don't have room for) or Christmas decorations (I am not a decorator like that) or just other randomness. lol Which is all fine. Whatever someone wants to give you as a gift is their choice really. But be forewarned if they don't see what they want to give you on the registry (and they aren't cash givers) they will get you what they think you should get regardless.

Those poems are tacky, sorry. We did a very small registry at pottery barn, but we got 85% checks/cash anyway. That's usually how it pans out anyway, unless you're in a part of the country where gift giving is the norm, which you'll have to accept graciously.

A really small registry and pass the word through your bridal party and mothers that you are saving for a house, or saving for larger ticket items but your kitchens are fully equipped.

I'm not a fan of the poems or a 'wishing well', sorry. I don't think they're in very good taste. I agree with most of the other ladies. Set up a small registry, so those who don't like to give cash can still pick out something you'll actually want. And then just spread the word via family and the bridal party that you are saving up for furniture.

A side note about gift cards. I don't think that it's never acceptable to ask for gift cards. We're fixing up a house and will be doing a lot of shopping at Lowe's, but Lowe's doesn't have a registry. So we added a note to our Amazon registry that we would also be appreciative of Lowe's gift cards. I didn't know how else to say it. But for our Belk registry, it gave us the option to add Belk gift cards to our registry, but that seemed weird so I opted out of that.

Register for small items at the furniture places. Then return and use the credit.

People actually do those poems? I thought they were a wedding etiquette urban legend.

Please don't ask for cash. Like others have said, don't make a registry or just have a tiny one. Appreciate whatever people want to give you.

Uhg that poem is awful. I would do what other said and just create a very small registry because some people don't like giving cash. If anyone asks what you want say you have a lot of the small stuff but have been saving up for some furniture but asking for money whether it is flat out or in the form of a limerick or even a haiku is bad taste. I would judge the fuck out of a "give me money" poem.

On my wedding website I say "We are lucky to already own most household items so please consider contributing instead towards our honeymoon! We will be traveling to Cancun to swim with Whale Sharks during their annual visit to the coast as well as go horseback riding along the beach. You can visit our registry on Honeyfund.com to view the different excursions and activities you can help fund! If you would prefer to purchase a traditional gift we have set-up a registry at Bed Bath and Beyond." Or you could say something like "help us contribute towards a down-payment on a house, etc".

^ No.

You should just make a small registry. 50 items or less. People get the hint.

Creating a honeyfund or saying something on your website like "Help us contribute to X" is, literally, asking for cash.

Wow that poem thing is new and I was only recently married in June 2013! I think that takes the cake on tacky. Don't do any registry not even a small one and people will get your wants by word of mouth. Trust me. They will aks whoever is hosting the party what you need and they can say cash or whatever.

The problem with the poems, besides the obvious, is the term "poetry" should be reserved for T.S. Elliot.

If it rhymes, and its more than three lines long, I don't care.

Let's see...

"Something old and something new,

Something borrowed something blue

That age old verse might still be true,

but our day will be a fundraiser too!

We need a couch, we need a chair,

Our humble home is truly bare!

A rug, a bed, a furnished lair

will truly show us that you care.

A gift that's green is in our dreams

as tacky as it probably seems.

So please don't think and please don't wrap

just write a check; it's just a snap!"

(apologies to all the English majors, teachers and writers.. and no, you can't use it.)

^ that was better than the others. it flowed.

WHY DO WRITERS IGNORE FLOW NOW'A'DAYS?!

Or any sense of traditional structure, grammar & syntax. But, another time, another day...