Best Man’s gf is my employee do i invite her?

You could still give him a plus one since he is in the wedding party, but talk to him beforehand and let him know that since she isn't his girlfriend (according to him), and also because you work with her and you don't want coworkers at your wedding, she cannot be his plus one, but he is welcome to bring someone who isn't one of your coworkers.

I would have a serious problem if one my husband's single groomsmen brought a married woman whom he was having a long standing extra-marital affair with to our wedding. I think that's incredibly disrespectful of the occasion (celebration of sanctity of marriage!) and all involved in it.

I'd like to think that if hubby had a talk with his friend and made sure the guy knew his married flame wasn't welcome (phrased more tactfully of course) but he could bring another date if he chose, that the request would be respected.

I should also caveat that I would have no problem if the woman in the divorce process and dating but from OP's posts, it doesn't sound like that is the case here. Since I met my now husband a couple months after separating from my ex-husband and moving into my own place, we were dating for a few months before my divorce finalized, I would hypocritical not to recognize that the situation of "dating a married woman" can have be a grey area. I recognize that life can be messy when it comes to a marriage dissolving, and lines can blur sometimes.

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I would give the best man a plus one and if he brings her then fine that's his choice. And like you said he does not acknowledge them as a couple so they dont really count as a couple.

I read the title and though "yes, it's his girlfriend" but after reading the rest of this....absolutely not. He's not a boyfriend, he is a side piece. They're not a couple. No way.

I think he should be allowed a plus one, but you don't have to directly invite her.

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Agreed!! Well said!! You could even put it as you don’t feel comfortable with someone you manage attending your wedding. And hold strong on your decision!

I believe in the wedding party having a plus one, who he chooses to bring would ultimately be up to him.

View Quoted Comment If the Best Man does not acknowledge her as his girlfriend, you would not invite her with him. And she is not close to you. Why would you invite her? As your employee, there is no reason, as only employees with whom one has a reciprocal personal social relationship are ever invited to personal social events, and she is not that either. Still no reason to invite her. So why are you even thinking about it?