Hi ladies.. I need some input please
My FH and I are pretty low maintenance, no frills, people when it comes to all of the wedding stuff that's goes along with getting married. We didn't want to register for anything, no wedding shower, and didn't want to have bachelorette/bachelor parties. When asked about a bachelor party by his best man, my FH requested a blended game night that both he and I could be part of. He gave a list of dates that we would both be available (because I have a child from a previous relationship who I share custody with so the weekends with her were out..because I don't give up my time with her). He hadn't heard of anything from his best man on the game night, and seemed to be disappointed, so I took it upon myself to get my uncle to let us use his house (because it's in the college neighborhood where he and all of his friends met) to play board games and probably travel out to some of the bars. No one really responded to his texts on the matter.
His best man had mentioned something to him previously about keeping the weekend of the 7th open. When FH said that wouldn't work because I wasn't available, bm said that was fine. FH thought it was to help him with somethjng because this friend asks for his help quite a bit.
Well, it turns out that the best man planned a two night stay in a cabin for FH and 'some peeps'..as bm put it. While I'm so glad that FHs friends planned something for him..because he seemed to be sad that they hadn't...I'm very hurt. His best man purposely left me out after FH specifically said if he did anything he wanted me to be included. I haven't felt sad about being left out in a very long time and this just feels awful. I feel even worse because a huge part of me doesn't want him to go.
We had planned on getting our marriage license on the 7th and now I don't want to do it that day anymore. I don't want to associate the day we get our license with the day FH goes to a cabin for something I was purposely left out of. I'm pretty sure he's going to go. He's upset about it..but I doubt he will want to cause conflict within his friend group. He avoids confrontation as much as possible.
Am I wrong to feel this way? If FH hadn't said he wanted me involved, and told the best man I wasn't available that weekend and the bm said oh that's fine..i would be nothing but happy for my FH.. But that's not what happened and I feel terrible..